About Us

Hi, we’re Ryan & Selena Frederick. Thank you for visiting our blog!

We started this blog to help us process through marriage’s trials as well as celebrate its joys. We are in our 15th year of marriage and we’ve learned a ton about what works and what doesn’t. We hope that as we share openly it will help you grow and cultivate a truly Christ-centered marriage.

Photo courtesy of Jeff Marsh.

Photo courtesy of Jeff Marsh.

We aren’t psychologists, counselors, therapists, or academics. We’re just a guy and a girl who are learning how to build a marriage that is centered on Christ. The knowledge and advice we offer here is purely editorial and journalistic. If you’d like to inquire about speaking engagements, please click here.

Our home church is Gospel Life Church in Puyallup WA. We’re extremely thankful for teaching that is faithful to the Bible and persistent about reminding us to find our worth and value in Christ alone, and what he has done on the cross.

Interesting and semi-interesting facts about us:

  • We are both entrepreneurs, artists, high school sweethearts and UW Huskies (go Dawgs!).
  • It’s spelled “Frederick“. Not Fredrick, Fredricks, or Frederickson; though all are very nice spelling options.
  • Ryan is an avid proponent of the Oxford Comma (as you’ll see in his writing). Selena is indifferent.
  • Selena loves horses and used to be a professional equestrian photographer.
  • We lived in Zurich, Switzerland for a time and it nearly killed one of us (literally). Read that story here.
  • We have two daughters, Dela (sugar and spice) and Clementine (fire and ice). If there was a cute meter they’d both blow it up.
  • We have two dogs that we love: an Australian Shepherd named Macy and a Jack Russell Terrier named Bentley.
  • Ryan is a web developer by trade, though most of his time is spent writing nowadays.
  • We have written a handful of books, all of which can be found here.

What to expect on this blog

Everything we write here stems from our core beliefs. In short, our relationship with Jesus Christ and our faith in Him governs everything we write. We wouldn’t be married if it wasn’t for the grace of Jesus and the power of God in our lives. We literally owe Him everything.

You can expect us to post 1-2 times per week on various marriage topics like communication, priorities, love, sex, and accountability. You can also expect at least one podcast episode every week. Everything we share is from our experiences, reading, and advice given to us by others.

What’s with the name?

So, why did we choose the name “Fierce Marriage”? Read all about it here.

Get in touch

You can get in contact directly with us through Facebook, Twitter, Google+, and Email. If you’d like to inquire about speaking engagements, please click here.

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More About Ryan

Born and raised in Tacoma, WA, Ryan graduated from the University of Washington with a bachelors degree in Business Management and Marketing. He started his career in commercial construction and worked for 4 years at the Washington State Department of Natural Resources (DNR) as a Construction Project Manager and Resource Conservation Manager or an “RCM” (wow, that’s a mouthful).

In 2009, he quit his job in state government and took a risk. He and Selena moved to sunny Palm Desert, CA to start a solar design & installations company. Though the business never sold a dime, Ryan’s “side gig” as a web developer blossomed into a full blown marketing agency known simply as “emg“.

In 2011, Ryan started his second venture, Crux Watches, and quickly realized a new passion for social enterprise.

Favorite things:

  • Being outside – hiking, running, trail running, bicycling
  • Travelling with Selena – anywhere, anytime
  • Authors: C.S. Lewis, Tim Keller, J.R.R. Tolkien, David Platt
  • Books: The Bible, A Grief Observed, The Problem with Pain, King’s Cross

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More About Selena

Selena was born & raised in Puyallup, WA. She graduated from the University of Washington with a bachelor’s degree in Arts, Media, and Culture and a minor in education. She started her career as a Regional Business Development Coordinator for a national construction testing & inspection firm.

In 2008, Selena picked up her first “real” camera, a Nikon D90, and never looked back. After quitting her day job, Selena launched Cheval Photos, thus marking the beginning of her journey as a professional photographer.

Today, Selena specializes in shooting equestrian events as well as weddings, products, and portraits. As an equestrian journalist, Selena has been published internationally both as a photographer and an editorial writer.

Each year, Selena travels to world class events like the Rolex Kentucky 3-Day Event, the Winter Equestrian Festival (WEF), and Spruce Meadows.

Selena volunteers as a YoungLife leader at Palm Desert High School where she mentors girls in a one-on-one capacity and in small groups.

Favorite things:

  • Horses – riding, grooming, competing, and anything else you do around horses
  • Travelling with Ryan – anywhere, anytime
  • Authors: Jane Austen, Tim Keller, Francis Chan
  • Books: The Bible, Pride and Prejudice, King’s Cross

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