Your deepest held beliefs, while they affect every aspect of life (including marriage), aren’t always biblical. This can make it incredibly hard to discuss sensitive topics or work through deep disagreements in marriage. As we’ve discussed often, your beliefs always inform your behaviors. In this week’s episode we talked about what a worldview is while contrasting biblical Christianity against 5 non-Christian worldviews. You may be…
The Secret (and Super Obvious) Ingredient
This week we recapped a few recent arguments we had to help illustrate how this one ingredient changes everything. While our fights had to do with dinners and sex, they each actually had nothing to do with either. You’ll have to listen to the episode to discover what that means! Spoiler alert: the ingredient is super obvious, but how it’s added makes all the difference.…
Narcissism and Marriage
Words like vanity, self-love, self-admiration, self-absorption, self-obsession, conceit, self-regard, and egotism all have one thing in common: the self is viewed as the crux of importance. They also describe narcissistic personality disorder. Everyone is selfish to a degree, but narcissists are self-focused at an extreme level. In today’s episode we discussed narcissism as a personality disorder, explored ways narcissists hurt their spouse, and revealed why,…
Infertility and Childlessness (Sheridan Voysey)
Sheridan Voysey and his wife, Merryn were devastated when they realized their dream of having children would never become a reality. After infertility, an international move, and a professional change shook the Voysey’s world, Sheridan realised that he couldn’t reconcile his expectations with the life he was living. In today’s episode, Sheridan shares their story of heartbreak, despair, healing, purpose, and finally, joy. It was…
Decision Drivers in Marriage
Decisions, decisions! The average couple makes hundreds of small decisions and many significant ones on a daily basis. The question is, where do our choices come from? As we discussed in this episode, every decision is rooted in some core value, and our core values have to do with our views of wisdom and folly as well as our ability to act on our views.…
Serving is Pursuing
Serving is not likely to make it to the top of most people’s “things that are sexy about marriage” list. Still, serving one another is one of the most profound (if not THE most profound) ways to love each other in marriage. In today’s episode, we discussed three ways Jesus showed us to serve one another when he washed his disciples’ feet. We also shared…
Surviving Infidelity (Tina Konkin)
Infidelity causes catastrophic damage to a marriage. Can it be survived? In today’s special interview with author and speaker Tina Konkin, we discuss just that. Tina shares with great detail how God used her husband’s affair, despite the damaging effects, to transform her heart and her marriage for the better. Listen in, we hope it blesses you. Read the Full Transcript Read the Shownotes
Rebuilding Trust After a Betrayal
Being betrayed by the one you love is one of the worst feelings imaginable. How can a couple find reconciliation and healing after trust is shattered. It’s not easy and it requires both spouses to work hard, but there is hope. In today’s episode we discussed stories in betrayal in the Bible—namely how we’ve betrayed God in sin—and what they can show us about finding…
Manipulation in Marriage
As we discovered, there is a vast array of manipulation methods at play in human relationships. The question is, which ones are you unwittingly using against each other in your marriage? Rationalization, minimization, lying (by omission and commission), shaming, vilifying, seduction, and many other methods might be at work in ways you’re unaware. In this episode, we explored what the Bible says about manipulation (as…
Know Your Soil
In this episode we discussed gardening (of all things) and how “knowing our soil” in marriage is critical to loving each other in the fullest context of covenantal love. Read the Full Transcript Read the Shownotes