Counseling: Do all couples need it?

The idea of counseling conjures all manner of reaction. Some couples spurn it, others welcome it. Why? And, can all couples benefit from counseling? In this episode, Ryan and Selena talk about whether or not counseling aligns with God’s Word, and if so, how it might help couples, whether they’re going through a difficult time or not. We hope this episode blesses you! This four…

Worldviews and Marital Unity

Your deepest held beliefs, while they affect every aspect of life (including marriage), aren’t always biblical. This can make it incredibly hard to discuss sensitive topics or work through deep disagreements in marriage. As we’ve discussed often, your beliefs always inform your behaviors. In this week’s episode we talked about what a worldview is while contrasting biblical Christianity against 5 non-Christian worldviews. You may be…

The Secret (and Super Obvious) Ingredient

This week we recapped a few recent arguments we had to help illustrate how this one ingredient changes everything. While our fights had to do with dinners and sex, they each actually had nothing to do with either. You’ll have to listen to the episode to discover what that means! Spoiler alert: the ingredient is super obvious, but how it’s added makes all the difference.…

Decision Drivers in Marriage

Decisions, decisions! The average couple makes hundreds of small decisions and many significant ones on a daily basis. The question is, where do our choices come from? As we discussed in this episode, every decision is rooted in some core value, and our core values have to do with our views of wisdom and folly as well as our ability to act on our views.…

Manipulation in Marriage

As we discovered, there is a vast array of manipulation methods at play in human relationships. The question is, which ones are you unwittingly using against each other in your marriage? Rationalization, minimization, lying (by omission and commission), shaming, vilifying, seduction, and many other methods might be at work in ways you’re unaware. In this episode, we explored what the Bible says about manipulation (as…

Expectations are Everything

Expectations are constantly at work in every marriage. The question is whether or not we’re aware of them and in agreement on what they should be. In this episode we posed dozens of questions for listener consideration about expectations in sex, money, communication, in-laws, hobbies, divisions of chores/labor, church, and more.   While this episode will be particularly helpful for our nearly- and newlywed listeners,…

4 Talks to Help Cultivate a See-Through Marriage

We recently did a mini-series for our new book See-Through Marriage,¬†where we focused on 4 main topics in the book that cover ways to cultivate a transparent marriage. Here, we have compiled all 4 episodes together in one place. We hope these episodes bless you and your marriage! You can purchase See-Through Marriage wherever books are sold. Sex: See-Through Marriage (1 of 4) In part…

Having Political Disagreements as a Couple

With everything going on in society, we thought it would be timely to discuss ways to have productive political conversations as a couple. While we didn’t cover the hot-topics themselves, hopefully this episode will help you and your spouse “come to the table” and hash out tough political disagreements. We discussed the four big presuppositions to every conversation, the cultural lies they dispel, and how…

Discerning the Voices That Speak Into Your Marriage

A listener asked, “who we should let influence our thoughts, opinions, and actions” in life and marriage. Join us as we root out the where and why we believe voices and ideas that shouldn’t have input into our lives. Warning, things got a little more fiery… but we still had fun.

Tough Talks: See-Through Marriage (Part 2/4)

This is part 2 of a 4 part series that covers ways to cultivate a transparent marriage. Each episode in this series is based on a topic covered in our latest book, See-Through Marriage (https://seethroughbook.com). Make sure to pre-order to get the free discussion guide and audiobook!