What is “Simmering”? (Sex Talks, 3 of 4)

It’s 10x easier getting water to boil if it’s already simmering. Could the same be true for our sex lives as Christian married couples? In this episode we explore the how the idea of “sexual simmering” could be helpful for your marriage. Rest assured, we dive into Scripture as we explore, and as you’ll find, God’s Word isn’t silent even on the topic of simmering.…

The 5 Modes of Sex (Sex Talks, 2 of 4)

What if one of you is in the mood and the other isn’t? And what could “modes” have to do with solving your frustrations in that moment? In this episode we elaborate on our previous talks about “the spectrum of sex” by introducing 5 modes of sex. We hope it helps you! Our marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It’s a…

Sacred Simmering

One of the great challenges of sexual fulfillment in the twenty-first century is that there’s so little time and energy left over to enjoy sex. I get sympathetic laughs in my talks whenever I mention “hotel sex.” Two of the main reasons hotel sex (or vacation sex) creates such a different experience are time and energy. Most of us who are older than thirty will…

“Married Sex” (Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta)

This months “Sex Talks” series continues with a bonus interview with Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta about their new book Married Sex: A Christian Couple’s Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life. This is a tricky topic, and we so appreciate Gary and Debra’s willingness to come on and talk with us and our listeners so candidly. We pray it blesses you. To get a copy of their…

The 7 Reasons for Sex (Sex Talks, 1 of 4)

Sex talks! This episode begins our series that’s all about sex. Today we talked about the 7 (Biblical) Reasons for Sex in order to set the stage for more granular—and perhaps tougher—talks in coming weeks. We hope that as you listen, we’re able to put words to feelings you’ve felt and give you tools to begin building a healthier, more Christ-centered sex life in your…

Skill #4: Making Sex Better (Back to Basics, 4 of 4)

As we finish out this series on marital basics and skills, we’re discussing the topics of sex and intimacy. The trouble most couples face in this area stems from a misunderstanding of the very nature of their sex life as a couple and the fact that it is, in fact, an area where you’re meant to grow and explore and figure out over your lifetimes…

How Do I Know if I Have a Pornography Problem?

There used to be a clearer line between the appropriate and inappropriate. But today, movies, TV shows, music, social media accounts, video games, billboards, magazines— many of them contain inappropriate, sexually-stimulating material. To be clear: Since the Fall in Genesis 3, every human culture has distorted God’s pure and holy intention for human sexuality. What’s perhaps unique to our culture is just how pervasive, accessible,…

Crushing Porn Use With God’s Joy Over You

What if Eve had just poked her head around the tree instead of staring at its fruit? What if Adam had reminded her of the fruit hanging from other trees just a few steps away? She could’ve spent her whole day rejoicing in all of the fruit God had given her to eat. Five minutes later she could’ve been so lost in God’s good pleasures…

Boundaries and Sex

Boundaries are an inherent part of every married couple’s sex life. The question is, are your sexual boundaries clear? Are they communicated? And are they actively enforced? In today’s episode we’ll walk through two critical passages of Scripture that teach us about boundaries and discuss examples of how they can be applied in marital life. Enjoy!   Read the Full Transcript Read the Shownotes

How to Talk About Sex

Every healthy married couple should not only prioritize sex but also communicating on the topic of sex. None would likely disagree (at least, not in most modern contexts), because what can a couple lose by talking about their sex life together? This a peculiar topic because it’s one area where we’ll heartily agree with the culture’s message: it’s right, good, and healthy to talk about…