April 3, 2023

The Secret of Contentment, Tradwives, and Augustine

ONE Thought (from us)

Is contentment today’s best-kept secret? Not really. Contentment isn’t a secret at all, it’s just that humanity isn’t good at it. Why? Because our lack of contentment is the entire reason for the Fall. The serpent convinced Eve that God’s restriction—i.e. don’t eat from the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil—meant he was holding out on them. The serpent asked, Did God really say…? and he’s still asking that same, misleading, deceptive lie disguised as a question to this day. Don’t fall for it!

Many life and marriage ills are remedied by a greater sense of contentment, but why does contentment feel so elusive? We think it’s because we look for it in all the wrong places. True contentment can only be Christian contentment. This is because our souls are restless until we learn to trust God and take him at his word. Here’s the truth: God loves you (Romans 8:35, 37-39), he’s sovereign (Romans 8:29–34), and he’s working all things for the good of those who are truly his (Romans 8:28). (This is a good time to revisit the whole chapter of Romans 8!)

How different would your marriage be if you believed in God’s love, goodness, and trustworthiness more completely? How could it change how you communicate, view finances, arrange your lives, and learn to love the husband or wife the Lord has given you? In our view, pretty different.

“Let them thank the LORD for his steadfast love,
for his wondrous works to the children of man!
For he satisfies the longing soul,
and the hungry soul he fills with good things.”

(Psalm 107:8–9, emphasis added)

ONE Quote (from another)

Because you have made us for Yourself,
  and our hearts are restless
  till they find their rest in Thee.

– Augustine, Confessions, 1.1.1.

ONE Question (for you)

Rate your contentment level on a scale of 1–10. Now, how might you pursue contentment in Christ this week, and how might that make your marriage better?

Note: this week we covered a recent TikTok/Instagram trend known as the “#tradwife”. It was an interesting discussion that had much to do with contentment. We encourage you to give it a listen or a watch!

Until next week, stay fierce!

Ryan & Selena Frederick
Founders of Fierce Marriage