April 10, 2023

3 Lies that Divide Couples, Chesterton, and See-Through Marriage

ONE Thought (from us)

Love cannot abide where honesty is absent. There are some lies we tell ourselves that affect our spouses more than we might know. These lies we tell ourselves keep us from being truthful and transparent. Consider the following “lies of isolation” we’ve seen many couples employ:

  1. I can’t be honest about [insert sin or concern here] because I’m barely holding on to the little peace we have
  2. I’ll fix myself, then I’ll go to my husband/wife and tell them what I’m dealing with
  3. We may have problems, but at least we’re not as bad as so-and-so

Each of the above lies avoids whatever the true issue is. Instead, choose transparency today. Reject the lies! Pray and ask God to give you the wisdom, courage, and words to speak truthfully. Whatever you’re facing, the power of Christ and biblical love are more than enough to see you through to the other side.

“This is the message we have heard from him and proclaim to you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all. If we say we have fellowship with him while we walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth. 7But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin.”
(1 John 1:5–7)

ONE Quote (from another)

“Love means loving the unloveable — or it is no virtue at all.”
– G.K. Chesterton

ONE Question (for you)

Consider the questions raised above. How can you be more honest with your spouse today?

Note: The ideas expressed in this newsletter are based on a chapter of our book, See-Through Marriage. We also covered it in this week’s podcast episode! We encourage you to give it a listen or a watch!

Until next week, stay fierce!

Ryan & Selena Frederick
Founders of Fierce Marriage