ONE Thought (from us)
Is intimacy less valuable if one of you isn’t “feeling it”? Not at all! In fact, one of the most incredible aspects of covenantal marriage is that your love and affection for each other don’t dependent on feelings that can be unpredictable and fickle. This isn’t to say that emotions don’t play a role (God gave us emotions, too), but rather that intimacy, love, and affection are all objectively good in a God-honoring marriage.
So, what should we do if our intimacy feels more like an obligation than a joy at times? In short, seek and find the joy in it… together! In matters of sex and intimacy, “not you” is very different from “not now”. Learn to talk through those moments when intimacy feels cold, and seek to understand the blessing it is to come together as one flesh, especially when “the mood” feels hard to find.
We discussed this at length in this week’s podcast, “Intimacy without Obligation”. Hope to see you there!
“Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
(1 Corinthians 7:5)
ONE Quote (from another)
“The Christian gospel creates strong sexual integrity not by despising the body but by honoring the body.”
― Ray Ortlund
ONE Question (for you)
How can you surprise your husband/wife with an unforeseen blessing this week? You know them best so you can bless them best!
Until next week, stay fierce!
Ryan & Selena Frederick
Founders of Fierce Marriage