August 10, 2023

Becoming a Fierce Man, How Belief Drives Behavior in Marriage

ONE Thought (from us)

This week I (Ryan) would like to speak to the men. Many husbands write in with problems they’re facing with their wives and my first question is always the same: What kind of husband are you becoming? This is usually met with off-balance bewilderment, then a fruitful conversation ensues. This isn’t because their wives are blameless, but rather because they’re outside their realm of control.

So, fierce husbands, what kind of man are you becoming? Are you serving your wife by leading her and loving her as Christ leads and loves his bride, the church? How you behave toward your wife (and in life) is a direct result of what you truly believe. Some might say it’s legalistic to emphasize behavioral change, but I beg to differ: we’re called to repent, believe, and act accordingly (Acts 26:20). If we don’t act accordingly, have we really believed?

I’d like to unpack this more and talk about what it means to be a fierce man, but it would require too many words. So, I did a solo episode this week on the podcast! I encourage you to watch or listen to it when you have a chance.

Therefore, my beloved brothers, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that in the Lord your labor is not in vain.
(1 Corinthians 15:58)

ONE Quote (from another)

“The strength of your marriage depends far more on your beliefs about God than on your feelings for each other.”
– Anonymous

ONE Question (for you)

What attitudes or behaviors indicate a lack of belief, and how can you submit to Christ in changing them?

Note: Be sure to watch or listen to this week’s podcast episode to get the full discussion. Also, if you’re looking to grow in your pursuit of your wife (or husband, if you’re a wife reading this), we have a perfect resource for you: The 31-Day Pursuit Challenge.

Much love and stay fierce!

Ryan & Selena Frederick
Founders of Fierce Marriage