March 11, 2024

Why You Need Marital Check-Ins, Walking in the Light, and Charles Spurgeon

ONE Thought (from us)

Have you ever asked the simple question, How can I be a better husband/wife? Tragically, few have. And, if that’s you (i.e. you haven’t asked), then there is no time like the present to start!

Marital check-ins are a vital and valuable part of every healthy marriage. But what are they, aside from asking the all-popular, “How are you doing?” In our view, marital check-ins are all about drawing near to each other by asking questions that facilitate discussion about ways to improve in any and every area of your marriage. They accomplish the following (for starters):

    1. They solve the “The Disconnection Drift” that leads to dysfunction, bitterness, and sin 
    2. They help with transparency
    3. They curb unproductive assumption making
      1. “He’s too tired to help, I won’t ask.”
      2. “He’s stressed at work, so I shouldn’t bring it up…”
      3. “She doesn’t want to talk about _______ so why bring it up?”
    4. They give you intentional time to know and be known deeply
    5. Help build a family culture of intentional inquiry (Kids will feel/see you when you’re honest and grow to see this as normal)

But, HOW might you have a check in? And, what questions will you ask? We discussed that and more in our latest podcast episode, which you can listen to or watch here. We hope it blesses you!

“But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin. “
(1 John 1:7)

ONE Quote (from another)

“A well-matched couple carry a joyful life between them.…They multiply their joys by sharing them, and lessen their troubles by dividing them: this is fine arithmetic.”
– Charles Spurgeon

ONE Question (for you)

Would your marriage benefit from regular check-ins? What is one step you can take toward better/more frequent check-ins today?

Note: Be sure to watch or listen to this week’s podcast episode to get the full discussion. Also, if you’re looking to grow closer through the actions of love (and prayer), we have a perfect resource for you: The Pray and Pursuit Book Bundle.

Much love and stay fierce!

Ryan & Selena Frederick
Founders of Fierce Marriage