Dating Your Spouse, Devotions, Love

3 Worthwhile Valentine’s Day Ideas to Build Lasting Intimacy …All Year Long

As I mentioned in my last post, I’m not a natural romantic… but I’m hoping to change that.  This week I’ve spent some time actively thinking about exactly how to head in the right direction. If you recall, these are the ways I’ve begun pursuing Selena: Ponder: Set aside time to consider her deepest joys and find unique ways to meet them. Plan: Make plans so…

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Challenges, Dating Your Spouse, For Men, Love

My 3 New Goals for Pursuing My Wife

I’m not a natural romantic; but I think I can change that. I’m realizing that my ability to love my wife well greatly depends on my intentional, ongoing pursuit of who she is and what she’s feeling. That’s the essence of romance: intentional pursuit. I’m not just talking about covering the bed with rose petals and lighting a few candles. That might be part of it……

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For Men, For Women, Leadership, Priorities, Purpose

5 Ways Advent Can Transform Your Marriage

I can’t believe Christmas is almost here…again. I have this habit: every year, the day after Christmas I say to myself, “before you know it, it will be Christmas again”. Sure enough, here we are. I have to be honest, I find parts of this holiday wearing. The biggest frustration I have (and you may share it) is the consumerism of it all. Somehow we…

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Dating Your Spouse, Devotions

Devotion: Listen, Laugh, Love

Remember that you began as friends. Your earliest moments as a couple likely included plenty of conversation, laughter, and fun. Your foundation of friendship will sustain you when feelings of romance come and go. Celebrate your history together! Laugh more, encourage constantly, listen intently, and share transparently. Consider this passage: “When the Lord restored the fortunes of Zion, we were like those who dream. Then…

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Priorities

3 Boundaries You Absolutely Need In Your Marriage

Healthy boundaries will protect you from overextending yourself in life. They will also protect the health of your marriage when they’re clearly defined. Every season of frustration in our own marriage (“season” = many months) can usually be traced back to some issue with boundaries. Usually I’m overworking, or we’re making poor decisions in areas where we haven’t clearly defined our “walls”. Quickly, let’s consider this…

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Devotions, Love

Devotion: Love vs. Lust

  It’s important to make a sharp distinction between love and lust in marriage. When a husband and wife love each other’s souls, time and aging only strengthen their love. Lust has the opposite effect. Understanding the differences between the two will help you address toxic tendencies directly. Here are a few key distinctions between lust and love: Lust is selfish, love is selfless. Lust is…

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