Becoming a “Family Team” (Jefferson and Alyssa Bethke)

Family is the first and most important institution created by God, yet we often live by default instead of by design. In today’s episode, we spoke with Jeff and Alyssa Bethke about their passion for Family Teams, what that term means, and how to celebrate the importance of being a family through rhythms of rest and celebration. The Fierce Marriage Podcast:  Please feel free…

3 Aspects of Unforgettable Dates After “I Do”

We haven’t always been the best at dating. Sure, we’ve been out to dinner and done many activities in the name of pursuing each other, but we haven’t been as intentional about it as we would’ve liked. And as our family has grown we’ve found ourselves dating even less. As we’ve learned and grown in this area, we’ve discovered that there are a few unique…

The Power and Joy of Living “On Mission” as a Couple

Nothing will unify a couple like purpose in Christ. It’s knowing why and how you are called to love that will sustain your marriage for a lifetime. A couple on mission fulfills the Great Commission (Matt 28:19) in ways specific to how God designed marriage to flourish and function. A husband and wife on mission do this with unity, joy, and gospel-fueled excitement. This is…

The 3 Types of Intimacy and How Transparency Grows Each One

Today’s podcast conversation was both fun and challenging. We talked through 1 John 1:5-9 in terms of how we’re called to “walk in the light” as a married couple who follows Christ. We discussed the three types of intimacy and how to grow in each one: sexual, emotional, and spiritual. We hope you listen and enjoy! The Fierce Marriage Podcast:  Please feel free to…

3 Types of Margin You Absolutely Need in Your Marriage

Things never go as planned. I have an idea of where I’d like my days to go, but the only predictable thing about life is that it’s unpredictable. The vast majority of my life feels like I’m just along for the ride and the driver could care less where I think we should go. Why is life so hard to plan perfectly? Because things happen which…

The Amazing Joys of Marriage

A few months ago, Selena and I got to meet one of our heroes in person: Gary Thomas. We were walking into the dining room of a retreat center when we saw Gary and Lisa approaching. Before I could awkwardly introduce myself, he warmly and enthusiastically greeted me: “Hey Ryan!”, he said. I couldn’t believe it. “He knows who we are?” I thought. (In hindsight, it…

Can I Have Close Friends of the Opposite Sex?

There is a lot of godly information and instruction around this area of friendship with the opposite sex and whether or not it is something that can happen or should happen. In this episode, Ryan and Selena will discuss this controversial topic while sharing their own experiences and biblical understanding of how we “can have the wisdom to know and enjoy the blessing of friendship…

The Art of Appreciation

One of the quickest ways to defuse all manner of marital dysfunction is to show and feel appreciation toward one another. The thing about appreciation is that it’s a choice and a skill. I’d even say that just like many things, one can learn the art of appreciation! In this episode of the Fierce Marriage Podcast, we discuss a few ways to exercise your “appreciation…

4 Ways to Build Lasting Unity

Unity. Deep, true unity is unmistakable and irreplaceable in a healthy marriage. God’s word says “they shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). Not two people with a common goal, but one flesh. Combined. Unified. God created us for deeper unity with our spouses than any other human. There are profound reasons for this, like the necessity of strong families for flourishing churches and societies. There…