First Things and Next Things

It’s tempting to try and figure out next things while losing sight of what should be first things. As we approach another year, it’s vitally important to recalibrate ourselves based on what actually is of most importance, then we can reverse-engineer our way into “next things” from there. Many believe that their marriage “is what it is”, and that people can’t change. In one way,…

Quick Q&A 5: How can we have a healthy sex life after having kids?

Kids are a blessing, no doubt, but they bring with them a “new normal” that, if not navigated well, can cause issues in marriage. In this short Q&A episode, Ryan & Selena talk about how to plan for, establish, and maintain a healthy sex life after having kids. Read the Full Transcript Read the Shownotes

Fight Me!

There is an art to arguing well. The first, and most important key to fighting well is to never give up—never quit the fight, run away, or disengage. “Push through the ambush.” In this episode, Ryan and Selena look at what the Bible says about conflict, then they discuss 5 practical tips for fighting well.

Fighting for Peace in Your Marriage

Peace is more than the absence of conflict—so much more. The Bible’s definition of peace is all-encompassing, and has very little to do with outside circumstances. In this episode, Ryan & Selena talk through peace as a fruit of the Spirit, made available to us through the Prince of Peace himself, Jesus! We hope it blesses you. Read the Full Transcript Read the Shownotes

Finding ‘Fierce’ Friends That Fight for Your Marriage

There are certain aspects of friendships that qualify them as distinctly “Christian community”, specifically purposed for our sanctification and discipleship as followers of Christ. What do we mean? You’ll have to listen! You can expect to learn about 5 distinguishing qualities of Christian community: Gospel centrality, true transparency, deep discipleship, consistency, and commitment.

Quick Q&A 2: Will we still be married in heaven?

Ryan and Selena tackle a common but somewhat murky question for believers: if we’re married on earth, will we also be married in heaven? Listen in as we take a look at what the Bible says about just that. Enjoy! Read the Full Transcript Read the Shownotes

Faked Transparency vs. True Vulnerability

It’s so easy to feign transparency in marriage. We can give just enough info to give the appearance of vulnerability, all the while failing to be meaningfully vulnerable with one another. In this episode, we talked about the roots of why we “fake it” in marriage, and how the Gospel compels us to fight instead for true vulnerability. Read the Full Transcript Read the Shownotes

Communicating With Clarity When Things Aren’t So Clear

Communication continues to be one of the most hotly requested topics from our listeners. So, today we talked about themes that tend to undermine healthy communication: 1) Oversimplification, 2) Failure to Empathize, and 3) Bad Timing and Tone. Listen and learn new ways to approach conversations and conflict with clarity fueled by biblical love. We hope you enjoy! Read the Full Transcript Read the Shownotes

Your Marriage is Bigger Than You

God created marriage to be BIGGER than you! It’s bigger than today, it’s bigger than our cultural context, and it’s bigger than our struggles. Why and how is it bigger? In today’s episode, we talked about seeing marriage in its proper context as part of God’s plan for redemption throughout history, but also redemption in our daily lives. We hope it blesses you! Read the…

What (little ‘g’) gods Are You Worshipping in Your Marriage?

It’s all too easy to pay lip service to Jesus in life and marriage, but live as if he’s not King. In this episode of the Fierce Marriage Podcast, we recapped lessons we’ve learned from the past few weeks since the arrival of our 3rd daughter. God graciously allowed us to realize areas of our lives that we can tend to enthrone in a place…