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Book Review: The Best Yes (by Lysa Terkeurst)

In a recent post I shared my latest struggle in our current situation and I have to say that God has been providing me with more encouragement, hope and contentment than I have had in a long time. I know that part of that is because of the precious prayers from our FM community – how do I even begin to thank you? What a special blessing each of you are to us and to each other.

Another way that God has been directing me is through another book that I’ve had the privilege to dive into, Lysa Terkeurst’s latest The Best Yes. Talk about timing.

The Best Yes is not a marriage book, but everything about it deals with how we, as women, can “make wise decisions in the midst of endless demands,” (front cover) and I think it’s safe to say that our marriage falls under “endless demands” – in a good way.

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Trust me, you won’t be able to put it down.

A bit about The Best Yes

Reading this book feels like you’re sitting down to have coffee with one of the most Godly, anointed and just plain amazing friends. Lysa’s transparency is admirable and her honesty is unforgettably enduring.

The book is practical and deep all at the same time.

As women, wives, mothers – whatever stage we find ourselves in, we often struggle with this need to please people. Even if it costs us time we don’t have, energy and focus that should go to our spouse/kids and finances we shouldn’t be spending.

We have to slow the rhythm of rush in our lives so the best of who we are can emerge.

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I believe the enemy is strategic in his attacks on us and if he can get us “caught in the rush of endless demands,” (p. 10) then we will inevitably miss out on what God is really asking us to do, simply put: rebellion. Strong language, but a truth that should not be overlooked because as followers of Christ, we have a role in furthering His kingdom.

“In God’s plan, you’ve got a part to play. If you know it and believe it, you’ll live it. You’ll live your life making decisions with the Best Yes as your best filter. You’ll be a grand display of God’s Word lived out. Your undistracted love will make your faith ring true. Your wisdom will help you make decisions that will still be good tomorrow. And you’ll be alive and present for it.” (p. 6)

How The Best Yes has impacted me

Personally, right now, this book has convicted and instructed me in where I’m struggling most: trying to figure out God’s will for my life – more specifically defined (by me) as where are we going to live? What are we going to do? Oh, and by the way, do you know I have a very busy 8 month old? 

You know you’re caught in the rip current of people pleasing when you dread saying yes, but feel powerless to say no.

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“The one who obey’s God’s instruction for today will develop a keen awareness of His direction for tomorrow.” (p. 11) — thump! Just me falling and picking myself up off the floor because I got hit across the head by the weight of these words.

Obedience before direction.

Lysa unpacks this in a beautiful way and I’m not going to share too much more because I really want to encourage you to read it for yourself (and buy an extra copy for a friend! I always love giving books away, so I always buy more than one).

Lastly, Lysa explains why and how to deal with the idea of trying to please everyone. How we often do whatever we can to make people happy because “we dread saying yes, but feel powerless to say no.” (p. 154)

I see the ramifications of this in dealing with friends and relationships outside of marriage. We run ourselves ragged trying to keep the peace and be off-the-chart friends with everyone instead of realizing that a) it’s impossible to please everyone, b) the only One we really need to be concerned with pleasing is Jesus, and c) who often bares the brunt of our craziness? Our spouse (and then kids).

Unbroken Companionship

My favorite part about this book is how Lysa ultimately is pointing us back to our Savior.

Reminding us to go to Him and begin (or restart) that bond of “unbroken companionship” (p. 18) that is so in sync with the Lord that no matter His request; talk to that stranger about Him or those thousands of strangers, we can give the best yes when we are tuned into our Father.

“Unbroken companionship helps us hear His instruction so then we can see His direction. We must not seek direction before obeying His instruction.” (p.18)

Can I get an Amen?

Why you should read it (if you haven’t figured it out yet)

The quotes above are a few of the gems that have taken resident in my heart. I could share much more, but would rather you read it for yourself.

When a woman lives with the stress of an overwhelmed schedule, she’ll ache with the sadness of an underwhelmed soul.

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I would strongly encourage you to pick up this book as soon as you can and start incorporating it into your day. Even if it means reading one paragraph a day (which is seemingly impossible).

It’s a great read, full to the brim with God’s wisdom, and instructions on how to truly, and simply live for Him.

If you’re struggling in any way (marriage, self-image, parenting) again, I would encourage you to add The Best Yes to your daily time with the Lord and dive deeper in your faith and knowledge of how to biblically deal with feelings of being overwhelmed and or the fears of disappointing others.

I’ll leave you with one final quote and then – go buy the book!

“The decisions you make determine the schedule you keep. The schedule you keep determines the life you live. And how you live your life determines how you spend your soul.”

Let’s spend our souls on the things of God and not the things of this world.

Question: What is one thing you can say “no” to in the interest of pursuing your “Best Yes”?

Please respond in the comments below!

Get a free copy!

This month we’d like to give away a copy of The Best Yes. Make sure to join our email list below and we will pick a random subscriber and send them a book! 

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  • Jennifer

    I don’t really know what my “no” should be…I am just at a point where very often recently, I catch my self thinking or even saying to myself — “I just can’t do it all” “I can’t keep up with anything.” “I can’t keep up with LIFE.” and feeling very much like a failure as I not only can’t seem to keep up, but even what I DO do, I feel I don’t do right or good enough. Blah. Haha….yes, I think I need to read this book…so if the provision comes, I will dive in for sure! <3

  • Adeola

    Pls I need a free copy of this,I believe it will help my marriage and my counselling ministry.God bless you.

  • Catherine Brown

    I need this book to help me.my plate is full.

  • Linda N

    I’m with Jennifer in that I don’t know what one thing I should be saying “no” to. I sometimes feel that I’m already not saying enough “yeses” for God, so I have a tendency to keep saying yes to everything everyone asks me to do. Maybe it’s that I haven’t realized what that “best yes” is yet so I’m just filling up time & space. Would love to win a copy and look forward to reading it.

  • Liz Fenstemaker

    For sure, saying no to the distraction of social media! Finding a few trusted sites that encourage me on my journey -rather than overfilling my inbox & mind with too many emails/ideas. Limiting my time online & choosing connection & serving over checking my Smartphone/email/Facebook….

  • I’m on the edge… Lysas books are always a pretty easy and to the heart read, but they leave a resounding change and lesson that connect me closer w/ Christ. I’ve got a long tangent I love to share, Joe she accidentally pooped in my life 14 yrs ago & never left & I never knew the shadow was her… But I’m working on another of her books, & I’m feeling so overwhelmed, I’m can’t decipher if the book is exactly what I need, or something I should come back to…. I guess if I win, I’ll know. God works that way a lot in my life. He just puts things in it!

    Thanks for the opportunity, & your recap!
    Blessings,

  • Lysa TerKeurst

    Selena,

    Thank you for this post! I’m so glad The Best Yes is speaking to you in those deep down places where the most gut-honest prayers emerge from.

    Much Love, Lysa

  • Allison

    One thing I need help with is knowing how to say yes more to my husband and knowing when to say no to my kids. It is so tough to put your husband’s needs before the needs of your children sometimes. I need to work on this! Love your blog and have signed up for your newsletter – thanks. I love hearing a man’s point of view (through your blog)