Is there just ONE person you should marry? What if you think you married the wrong person? In this episode we talked about why the idea of the “soulmate” is a myth, and everyone would be better off if it just went away. Watch, or Listen Below! Listen here Read the Full Transcript Read the Shownotes
Burn the Ships! Why Not Having a Plan B is a Necessity in Marriage
One of the best ways to make your marriage sustainable is to torch all backup plans. Why? Because only then can we begin to fully realize what covenant means. How? In a word: trust. We must trust that God designed marriage covenantally for a reason… even when it feels impossibly hard. Join us to explore what burning ships could look like in your marriage. Watch,…
Sacred Simmering
One of the great challenges of sexual fulfillment in the twenty-first century is that there’s so little time and energy left over to enjoy sex. I get sympathetic laughs in my talks whenever I mention “hotel sex.” Two of the main reasons hotel sex (or vacation sex) creates such a different experience are time and energy. Most of us who are older than thirty will…
Skill #2: Teamwork (Back to Basics, 2 of 4)
A constant reminder that floats throughout the Frederick household is “we’re on the same team(!!).” There is no replacement for truly being in unity, advocating for one another, making memories, and valuing one another as equally important parts of the marital team. The best part? Teamwork in marriage is a habit you can cultivate and if you do, it will revolutionize your relationship. We hope…
God, Spouse, Kids— Priorities Matter
When things are in alignment, everything runs smoothly. But when one piece of the puzzle is missing— or one moving part of an engine is out of place— the whole system becomes compromised. My husband and I hit rock bottom in our marriage before we recognized that our priorities were way out of alignment. Perhaps you feel this in your own marriage right now. Maybe…
Prioritizing Our Marriage by Taking it Off Cruise Control
It seems like it should be easy, effortless, even fun. Of course our marriage is a priority. As restrictions on this pandemic lift, however, we’ve realized we’ve very much set our marriage to cruise control these last 13+ months. And suddenly, the effects are settling in. See, when the world shut down last spring, we quickly adjusted to a new way of life. Calendars scaled…
When Your Trust is Broken
Experiencing broken trust can leave you disoriented, in denial, or in a panic. The first key to stepping down the path toward healing is to get your bearings, look at God’s Word, and take tangible steps of faith toward rebuke (not easy), repentance (must have), and reconciliation (worth it). In this week’s episode we looked closely at God’s model for reconciliation and shared candidly about…
3 Things I Wish I’d Known Before I Divorced My Wife
This isn’t an article by someone who doesn’t understand. I went through with it. I divorced my wife. I filed the papers and walked away from my marriage. Do you know someone who is thinking about it and feel desperate to understand? Maybe that person is you? I don’t mean the thought flew by once in a moment of weakness or anger. That’s definitely a…
Following God Wherever He Leads
Hi there! I’m Zena, the editor at Fierce Marriage and Fierce Parenting. I read this excerpt from Gospelbound by Collin Hansen and Sarah Eekhoff Zylstra and was so encouraged by it— this line in particular got me: “[My wife’s illness] is not some big distraction. This is not some huge detour. This is the path God has for us, and it leads somewhere good.” I…
The Importance of Encouraging Words
I remember the way it made me feel to hear her speak the nicest things in the world to me. She went on and on about how talented I was, how nice I was, and how meaningful I had been in her life as a songwriter and pastor. The words felt good. Real good. They were incredibly gracious and over-the-top nice. But there was a…