Communication, Podcast

Five Habits for Hearing and Being Heard

Communication is not just about saying and hearing words—it’s all about relaying ideas accurately with the intent of building a mutual understanding. When you practice healthy habits for talking, listening, and processing together, it’s for the good of your marriage and ultimately, for the glory of God.

If we are to have marriages that are healthy, enjoyable, and intentional, we must learn and apply wise principles to how we communicate. We must heed Solomon’s words in Proverbs 18:2:

A fool takes no pleasure in understanding but only in expressing his opinion.

Bad communication habits can stifle growth, inhibit intimacy, and create endless spouts of bickering, arguing, and division. However, healthy communication will fuel growth and intimacy and make your marriage resilient against otherwise devastating disagreements.

In today’s podcast, we discuss biblical themes for healthy communication, why we are called to point our spouses to the gospel through how we listen, and five tangible steps (habits) that lead us down the path toward healthier communication.

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Show Notes:

Communication: Five Habits for Hearing and Being Heard

  1. Highs and Lows
  2. Dysfunction in marriage often manifests itself first through communication
  3. Two themes in scripture around communication:
    1. A call to wisdom: be slow to speak, fast to listen, fast to wait
    2. Intentional communication with the purpose of being understood and understanding others
  4. Communication corruptors create unintentional misunderstandings
  5. Five habits for healthier communication:
    1. Talk intentionally
    2. Listen intently
    3. Seek Understanding
    4. Act out of Love
    5. Rest in Your Covenant
  6. Couple’s Challenge (see below)
  7. Rapid Fire Q&A
  8. Read a letter from a wife to her husband
  9. Housekeeping and announcements
  10. Prayer

Today’s Couples Challenge:

Listen to the podcast. Talk through the above points. Create a set of ground rules that protect your marriage against common pitfalls in your communication. Examples:
  • We won’t start heavy conversations after we’re both tired.
  • We will always resolve hard conversations.
  • We will not use hurtful language or namecalling when angry.
  • We understand that it’s sometimes healthiest to step away from the situation to think and pray.
  • Etc…

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  • Andrea Lloyd

    Great podcast!! The point about resting in your covenant. Wow, so helpful. Thank you for sharing! PS, the communication in our marriage is also centered around Parks & Rec and The Office quotes ;D haha

    • Thanks Andrea! So glad it helped you. And we’re both so happy to know we’re not the only ones who communicate largely through quotes from Parks & Rec and The Office! lol…