Stop Keeping Score

Keeping score is never healthy for a marriage, yet it’s often our default. Why? Because keeping score of wrongs, acts of service, faults, and personal victories can’t possibly come from a spirit of love. It most often comes from a place of insecurity and lack of faith in the gospel. In this episode, we’ll unpack how keeping score is damaging to a marriage, and share…

Loneliness within Marriage

It’s ironic, but many individuals and couples experience loneliness while married. God said, “it is not good for man to be alone”. Why? What else does the Bible say about being alone? In today’s episode, we discuss ways forward into healthy, gospel-driven community with your spouse and others that will bring greater joy to your marriage. Listen:  A Reminder… If we’ve earned it, we’d…

Naked and Unashamed

What does it mean to be truly intimate with another human? In Genesis 2 (before the Fall), it says that they were “naked and not ashamed”. So much of how we experience closeness with each other in marriage is determined by our sense of vulnerability and how we’re perceived when we’re truly exposed. Is it possible to be fully known by someone and still fully…

Fight Naked! How Fighting Well Can Help Build a Stronger Marriage

Fighting naked—both literally and figuratively—has been pivotal in helping us fight well. Yes, you can “fight well” in your marriage. Conflict, disagreements, frustrations, tension—none of this is new to marriage. That’s what today’s episode (and blog post!) is all about. Put two people in a covenant together, living in the same house for life, and conflict is inevitable. First, we’ll explore and understand what the…

Dealing with Anger in Marriage (the Healthy Way)

Listen in as Ryan and Selena discuss how to deal with anger in marriage (i.e. conflict, frustration, bitterness) in productive, biblical ways. Couple’s Challenge After listening, set aside some time to talk and write down anger triggers. Try to trace them back to their root causes and identify why they make you feel this way? Dive into scripture and discover what it says and how…

Are Your Words Off-Limits, Unhelpful, or Wise?

Is it me or is marriage is just another word for “endlessly learning to communicate”? Agreed, there is so much more to marriage than communication, but how many marital issues would be erased or solved if we just learned to communicate healthier? As a husband and wife team, it’s important to establish healthy communication ground rules. Consider what this verse can (and should) mean for…

The Tools of Transparency

Why be transparent about something difficult when it’s so much easier to just hide it? Quick answer: freedom. Nothing compares to the freedom of total honesty in a marriage relationship. Being totally honest can be scary. What if your husband/wife doesn’t love you once they see who you really are? While the proposition of rejection is scary, as those rooted in Christ, we have hope…

Q&A: Staying Connected, Porn Addiction, Military Spouses, and More

In today’s episode, we answer listener questions. Some on the lighter side, some tough, all honest. Our latest episode is also officially live on iTunes (and the Android podcast app of your choice). Listen to this week’s podcast: Listen below, or better yet, choose a button above to subscribe on your device! Show Notes: Question 1: What are the best ways to stay connected in…

Five Habits for Hearing and Being Heard

Communication is not just about saying and hearing words—it’s all about relaying ideas accurately with the intent of building a mutual understanding. When you practice healthy habits for talking, listening, and processing together, it’s for the good of your marriage and ultimately, for the glory of God. If we are to have marriages that are healthy, enjoyable, and intentional, we must learn and apply wise principles…

Irritating Car Rides & My Subtle Holiday Pride

Around the holidays my pride flares up in nuanced ways. It’s subtle, and you could even say it’s harmless but I assure you it’s not. As I’ve thought about it more, I’ve realized that I’m trying to be better than others — and it’s exhausting. Yep, I’m talking about the ugly kind of pride.