There is an art to arguing well. The first, and most important key to fighting well is to never give up—never quit the fight, run away, or disengage. “Push through the ambush.” In this episode, Ryan and Selena look at what the Bible says about conflict, then they discuss 5 practical tips for fighting well.
Faked Transparency vs. True Vulnerability
It’s so easy to feign transparency in marriage. We can give just enough info to give the appearance of vulnerability, all the while failing to be meaningfully vulnerable with one another. In this episode, we talked about the roots of why we “fake it” in marriage, and how the Gospel compels us to fight instead for true vulnerability. Read the Full Transcript Read the Shownotes
Communicating With Clarity When Things Aren’t So Clear
Communication continues to be one of the most hotly requested topics from our listeners. So, today we talked about themes that tend to undermine healthy communication: 1) Oversimplification, 2) Failure to Empathize, and 3) Bad Timing and Tone. Listen and learn new ways to approach conversations and conflict with clarity fueled by biblical love. We hope you enjoy! Read the Full Transcript Read the Shownotes
The Art of (Actually) Apologizing
Today we explored 8 aspects of truly apologizing to your spouse! It’s not easy saying you’re sorry. It’s even harder apologizing in a way that leads to deep, lasting reconciliation (even during small conflicts). Listen in to discover and learn the Art of Apologizing. We hope it blesses you! Read the Full Transcript Read the Shownotes
5 Hurtful Phrases to Remove from Your Marriage Vocabulary
It seems like marriage is just another word for “endlessly learning to communicate”. Yes, there is so much more to marriage than communication, but how many marital issues would be erased or solved if we just learned to communicate in a more healthy manner? Our 15 years of marriage have taught us that it’s not a matter of if we disagree, but when we do,…
Are Your Words Off-Limits, Unhelpful, or Wise?
Is it me or is marriage is just another word for “endlessly learning to communicate”? Agreed, there is so much more to marriage than communication, but how many marital issues would be erased or solved if we just learned to communicate healthier? As a husband and wife team, it’s important to establish healthy communication ground rules.
3 Ground Rules for Experiencing Real Honesty with Your Spouse
Recently I walked out to our deck and began flailing my arms uncontrollably. I’m positive I looked like an idiot. Why, you ask? Two words: spider web. As I stepped outside I felt that familiar, sticky feeling all over my arms and face. The more I moved, the more I felt it. In about half a second I transformed from a calm, collected, adult man…
Building an Emotionally Safe Marriage (Dr. Josh and Christi Straub)
Josh and Christi are the real deal. Highly educated, faith-filled, and articulate communicators. In today’s special interview episode, we talked about what it takes to have an emotionally safe marriage. We discussed the “fight, flight, or freeze” response to trauma in your marriage, as well as our tendency to gloss over or forget to utilize ’emotion language’ as couples. We enjoyed our conversation, and we…
Uprooting Bitterness In Your Marriage
Seeds and roots of bitterness start subtly. We must be aware and wise to identify them and uproot them before they get out of control. In this episode, we talked about the true root of bitterness (it may not be what you think) and how standing in awe of God is the only true way to uproot it.
The 5 Love Languages (Podcast)
In this episode we discussed Gary Chapman’s amazing book, The 5 Love Languages. In their discussion they explore whether or not they are biblical, and how they can help/hinder your marriage in the different seasons you’re in (pre-kids, having little kids, no kids, retired, etc.). After recently taking the quiz online (go to 5LoveLanguages.com to take the quiz yourself), both were surprised by their results…