At the root of every healthy relationship lies humility. Why? The most toxic sin (and the opposite of humility) is pride. Pride puffs up. Pride is self-sovereign. Pride is self-seeking. C.S. Lewis once wrote, “For pride is spiritual cancer: it eats up the very possibility of love, or contentment, or even common sense.” But there’s good news! Gospel-fueled humility is the antidote to pride. Read the…
Reclaiming Real Romance
It’s easy to forget to pursue each other when you’ve been together for a while. Life gets busy, time gets scarce, and before we know it, we’ve forgotten to intentionally love one another. This week we discussed tangible ways to enjoy each other more in marriage. Enjoy! Read the Full Transcript Read the Shownotes
Finding the Absolute Definition of Love
If a couple isn’t on the same page in how they define love, they’re in for quite a challenging marriage. Thankfully there is a perfect and final authority who can tell us what love is. In this episode, we discussed why and how Jesus is our ultimate authority, definition, and example of love. Read the Full Transcript Read the Shownotes
Foundations of Forgiveness
Forgiving others when we’re genuinely hurt is one of the most difficult but important principles we must learn in marriage. In this episode, we looked at The Parable of the Unforgiving Servant (Matthew 18) and explored all it can mean for life and marriage. We hope it blesses you. Listen below.
Common Lies We Believe About Marriage (and Truths to Dispel Them)
Sometimes marriage is challenging because of a lie we’re believing on some level. For instance, if we believe (deep down) that there’s only one ‘right’ person to marry and we’re in a tough season, we may begin doubting our entire marriage. Another common lie is, “What I do on my own time won’t affect my marriage.” It definitely does. We discussed these lies and more…
The Amazing Joys of Marriage
A few months ago, Selena and I got to meet one of our heroes in person: Gary Thomas. We were walking into the dining room of a retreat center when we saw Gary and Lisa approaching. Before I could awkwardly introduce myself, he warmly and enthusiastically greeted me: “Hey Ryan!”, he said. I couldn’t believe it. “He knows who we are?” I thought. (In hindsight, it…
Sometimes Familiarity Hurts
One of the biggest sources of strife in marriage is being unequally yoked. In this week’s podcast episode, we sought to answer one of the hardest questions we face: What is the husband or wife to do if their spouse isn’t trying or won’t re-engage with the relationship? There’s no easy answer, and everyone’s situation is different. And, if I’m honest, I struggle to answer…
The 5 Love Languages (Podcast)
In this episode we discussed Gary Chapman’s amazing book, The 5 Love Languages. In their discussion they explore whether or not they are biblical, and how they can help/hinder your marriage in the different seasons you’re in (pre-kids, having little kids, no kids, retired, etc.). After recently taking the quiz online (go to 5LoveLanguages.com to take the quiz yourself), both were surprised by their results…
Living with Unshakeable Peace
Well, it was one of those nights…hard to sleep, too much on my mind and slightly anxious about the busy weeks ahead. My stomach turned, seemingly without end. Eventually, I started praying and after a while, I drifted off to sleep. It was a night of crazy, adventurous, and to be honest, stressful dreams (about mountain lions, Ivan the gorilla, and hiking). I woke up…
The Biggest Battle Every Couple Will Ever Face
Before I get started, I didn’t intend the title of this article to feel like clickbait (vis-à-vis alluding to a huge battle without actually saying what it is). Sorry about that, sort of. To be honest, this issue is so important to your marriage—so foundational—that I’m fine with sharing this message however possible (plus we have very little to gain monetarily by having you land…