What if one of you is in the mood and the other isn’t? And what could “modes” have to do with solving your frustrations in that moment? In this episode we elaborate on our previous talks about “the spectrum of sex” by introducing 5 modes of sex. We hope it helps you! Our marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It’s a…
Sacred Simmering
One of the great challenges of sexual fulfillment in the twenty-first century is that there’s so little time and energy left over to enjoy sex. I get sympathetic laughs in my talks whenever I mention “hotel sex.” Two of the main reasons hotel sex (or vacation sex) creates such a different experience are time and energy. Most of us who are older than thirty will…
“Married Sex” (Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta)
This months “Sex Talks” series continues with a bonus interview with Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta about their new book Married Sex: A Christian Couple’s Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life. This is a tricky topic, and we so appreciate Gary and Debra’s willingness to come on and talk with us and our listeners so candidly. We pray it blesses you. To get a copy of their…
The 7 Reasons for Sex (Sex Talks, 1 of 4)
Sex talks! This episode begins our series that’s all about sex. Today we talked about the 7 (Biblical) Reasons for Sex in order to set the stage for more granular—and perhaps tougher—talks in coming weeks. We hope that as you listen, we’re able to put words to feelings you’ve felt and give you tools to begin building a healthier, more Christ-centered sex life in your…
One Habit to Start Fostering Spiritual Growth in Your Marriage
Do you have a plan for the spiritual growth of your marriage? If you’re like me, you might be quick to say that spiritual growth is a top priority between you and your spouse, but I lived for years without a specific plan for growth. I wanted one. I even prayed for one. But my actual plan wasn’t very intentional. We went to church, and…
Skill #4: Making Sex Better (Back to Basics, 4 of 4)
As we finish out this series on marital basics and skills, we’re discussing the topics of sex and intimacy. The trouble most couples face in this area stems from a misunderstanding of the very nature of their sex life as a couple and the fact that it is, in fact, an area where you’re meant to grow and explore and figure out over your lifetimes…
Skill #3: Fighting Well (Back to Basics, 3 of 4)
If a couple can’t fight productively, things will be very difficult for them. In today’s episode we discuss practical ways to build the essential skill of arguing well as a couple. We hope it helps and blesses you, enjoy! Our marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It’s a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page…
How Do I Know if I Have a Pornography Problem?
There used to be a clearer line between the appropriate and inappropriate. But today, movies, TV shows, music, social media accounts, video games, billboards, magazines— many of them contain inappropriate, sexually-stimulating material. To be clear: Since the Fall in Genesis 3, every human culture has distorted God’s pure and holy intention for human sexuality. What’s perhaps unique to our culture is just how pervasive, accessible,…
Skill #2: Teamwork (Back to Basics, 2 of 4)
A constant reminder that floats throughout the Frederick household is “we’re on the same team(!!).” There is no replacement for truly being in unity, advocating for one another, making memories, and valuing one another as equally important parts of the marital team. The best part? Teamwork in marriage is a habit you can cultivate and if you do, it will revolutionize your relationship. We hope…
The Renewal of Sabbath
Hi there! I’m Zena, the editor at Fierce Marriage and Fierce Parenting. I read this excerpt from A Surrendered Yes by Rebekah Lyons and needed to pass it along to you, dear readers! I particularly loved this nugget of wisdom: “We don’t need to hustle to prove something God says is already true.” Observing Sabbath has been a big-time game changer for my family; I…