The desire to control outcomes and realities is at the root of all marital discord. Why? Because at its root the desire to control that which is out of our control is rooted in a distrust of God. If our spouse is disengaged, we want to nag so he or she will re-engage. When our finances aren’t where we want them to be, we work…
Uprooting Bitterness In Your Marriage
Seeds and roots of bitterness start subtly. We must be aware and wise to identify them and uproot them before they get out of control. In this episode, we talked about the true root of bitterness (it may not be what you think) and how standing in awe of God is the only true way to uproot it.
Common Lies We Believe About Marriage (and Truths to Dispel Them)
Sometimes marriage is challenging because of a lie we’re believing on some level. For instance, if we believe (deep down) that there’s only one ‘right’ person to marry and we’re in a tough season, we may begin doubting our entire marriage. Another common lie is, “What I do on my own time won’t affect my marriage.” It definitely does. We discussed these lies and more…
3 Aspects of Unforgettable Dates After “I Do”
We haven’t always been the best at dating. Sure, we’ve been out to dinner and done many activities in the name of pursuing each other, but we haven’t been as intentional about it as we would’ve liked. And as our family has grown we’ve found ourselves dating even less. As we’ve learned and grown in this area, we’ve discovered that there are a few unique…
How to Study the Bible as a Couple
Approaching the Bible can be intimidating. We can easily feel overwhelmed or under-equipped. However, reading God’s Word is easily one of, if not THE, most important things you can do as a couple. With that said, take heart! God is faithful to make His word accessible to all who approach it willingly. In today’s episode, Ryan and Selena talked about how to overcome fears, what…
Q&A: Growing in Intimacy, Abortion, Headship/Submission, and More
Periodically, we do a full episode of Q&A from listeners. This week, we answered some fun questions and some more difficult ones.
3 Types of Margin You Absolutely Need in Your Marriage
Things never go as planned. I have an idea of where I’d like my days to go, but the only predictable thing about life is that it’s unpredictable. The vast majority of my life feels like I’m just along for the ride and the driver could care less where I think we should go. Why is life so hard to plan perfectly? Because things happen which…
5 Tips (and Tools) for a Stronger Marriage
Every time of year is a good time to intentionally strengthen your marriage. Many couples Selena and I speak with do have goals, but they rarely include family/marriage related endeavors. Why not? It’s hard to say, but as believers, we’re called to be thoughtful, faithful stewards of EVERY aspect of our lives. So, for a few moments, I want to give you permission to think…
The 3 Non-Negotiables in Marriage
Everyone builds their marriage on something. What is your marriage founded upon? More importantly, is the foundation of your marriage secure? In this episode, we explore what we consider the 3 non-negotiables for marriage and take a look at how when they’re in place, everything about your marriage will change. I hope it blesses you!
The “Spectrum of Sex” and Why You Need It
Regular and consistent sex is extremely important for a healthy marriage. But life gets busy, disconnection happens, and sometimes sex is burdensome. All of these things can lead to a lack of intimacy and a decrease in sexual satisfaction. If unchecked, it can create deeper issues like pornography addiction and bitterness. So how do we keep sex consistent and meaningful? Selena and I have discovered…