Commitment, Communication, For Men, For Women

5 Ways to Pray Intentionally for Your Spouse

A few months back I wrote in depth about how to pray with your spouse. In those posts I covered the mechanics of prayer and we used the Lord’s prayer as our blueprint. I’d encourage you to re-visit those posts briefly, especially if you’re feeling stopped up in how to start a prayer habit in your marriage.

For this post, however, I’d like to remind myself (and of course, readers!) of the power of praying for your spouse. For christians, the power of prayer is something we readily acknowledge but too often forget in practice. This tendency to forget is probably because we haven’t had the deep revelation of what prayer is and why we do it.

Let’s start with that…

3 Principles of Prayer

If nothing else, this (very) quick study of prayer will set a baseline for this post. I also hope it reminds us of the purpose and power of prayer as well as our position as those who pray (wow, look at all of those P words).

Here are some important things to remember about prayer as those who are in Christ:

  1. We have access to God through Christ
    Jesus paved the way and cleared the lines of communication. It’s only through Jesus that we are “acceptable” to God. This is not because God is mean, but because He is holy. I’d imagine us approaching God without Jesus would be like throwing a lit match into a hurricane – there’s just no way the match wouldn’t be snuffed out. Jesus is the titanium globe surrounding our match as we’re hurled into the hurricane. Jesus covers us with his righteousness through grace (fancy word: propitiation).
    Scripture: Hebrews 7:25-28, Romans 8:34
  2. We can influence God’s actions
    I almost didn’t include this point because it’s such a complex thing to say. However, from what I’ve learned, been taught, and observed in the Bible (and in modern history), God listens and intercedes based on prayers of His people. Even if the converse is true (we cannot influence God’s actions), it would really have no bearing on whether or not we should pray… but that’s a discussion for a different blog! Let us humbly assume we can talk to God and sway His heart through praying. (Note: our hearts must be aligned with His. That is, we don’t change God’s mind however we want, God changes His mind because He’s a loving Father).
    Scripture: James 5:16, 1 John 5:14
  3. God listens and answers
    When you pray to God, your prayers are heard. There are many passages of scripture which explain this, but it’s important we don’t take it for granted. The “God answers prayer” part is what can cause immature believers a crisis of faith – being immature is fine but staying immature isn’t. We may get frustrated when our prayers are unanswered. But, note that the Bible never says “God will always do what you ask no matter what”. God always answers, just not always with what we want. (“No”, and “not right now” are answers too).
    Scripture: 1 John 5, Hebrews 4

Ok, so we’re hopefully on the same page about prayer. Given our role as God’s children – and in intimate relationship with Him – prayer has staggering implications on our marriages! So how should I pray for Selena? How should you pray for your spouse?

5 Ways to Pray Intentionally for Your Spouse

As I’ve stated before, I’m not exactly a black-belt in praying. Selena is much better at it than I am – she’s a great communicator and I tend to under-communicate. She’s even written about 10 Ways to Pray for Your Husband (I love that woman so much…!)

Side note, this dialog on our Facebook page was interesting and encouraging!

I’ve found that I need to follow a logical progression for how I cover my bride with prayer. I like to start inside and work outward. As you pray for your spouse, make sure to pray for:

1: Their Heart

I don’t mean their physical heart, but their general softness of heart toward God and the Holy Spirit. Pray that they will be receptive to conviction (teachable); that they would continue to hear God and respond. Also pray that they would be refreshed by God – being constantly given new joy, hope, peace, and love. I am a husband who prays for my wife, leaders her boldly, serves her humbly, and cherishes her deeply.Ask God to protect their heart from attacks and temptation (Matt 6).

Just knowing that Selena covers me in prayer for my purity of heart (lust, financial idols, stress) gives me great confidence that she’s in my corner, fighting for me.

2: Their Mind

Wisdom and discernment. God has given us these incredible organs called “brains”. We can think, reason, and decide. Everyone makes decisions every day; pray that your spouse makes wise decisions big and small. Pray that they have a renewed mind, one that perceives and considers choices through God’s lens.

I am a wife who prays for her husband, stands with him, and will always love himIt could be said that the mind sees options and outcomes, but the heart chooses the right one (see #1 above). Pray for your spouse to have clarity of thought and focus as they go about their day – whatever task they’re putting their hands to, may it be completed wisely and diligently!

3: Their Health and Safety

Your spouse may be fighting off a sickness or working a perilous job. Pray for protection and health. Also, make sure to give God plenty of gratitude for when health and protection are evident! (Actually, give thanks ALWAYS, no matter the circumstance).

4: Their Concerns

When Selena is dealing with something difficult, I cover her in prayer. We often pray together when facing a tough time, but I have to remind myself to contend for her with God on my own. This is what compassion is all about: taking on someone else’s situation and burdens as your own.

Go to God on your spouse’s behalf, taking on their concerns as your own.

5: Their Purpose

Selena and I are one, and our purposes overlap quite a bit. By God’s grace we are working together toward a common goal… most of the time.

Selena is also a unique, special, gifted, and annointed woman with purpose specifically tailored to her. In fact, she’s God’s child before she’s my wife (whoa, heart check!). As her husband, it’s my role to support her in her God-ordained purpose by encouraging her, watching her back, offering counsel, and most of all, praying.

Prayer builds stronger marriagesNow, Boldly Pray

So we’ve briefly covered some principles of prayer. It’s safe to say my review is not exhaustive. Make sure to dig into God’s word on your own to build up your prayer life, your faith, and your understanding about why you pray. You don’t need to know every theological detail about prayer to participate.

Just talk to God – He’s your loving Father who loves to hear from you. Ask God to show you how to pray, and remember your role as a prayer. As you pray, also remember your role as a spouse. You are in covenant with your husband or wife, and you are in covenant with God.

There’s power in the covenant you have with God, and one of the most beautiful aspects of that covenant is the ability to pray.

What is one thing you pray for regarding your spouse?
Is there a specific prayer request you’d like the Fierce Marriage community to pray for?

Please let us know in the comments below!

Top photo by Jeff Marsh

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  • Samantha Thompson

    My husband and I are spiritually mismatched. After the wedding he started to lose faith due to a struggle with finding a job. I pray (silently) over him every night as we fall asleep that the holy spirit will help him, I pray that the love for Christ he had accepted into his heart when we were in college makes a come back because I know he’s still there. He’ll never leave his heart. I also pray for God to change my heart, to be a vessel of his message. Lastly I pray for the enemy to flee my husband and our home. I just ask everyone to continue to pray for us and all mismatched marriages that are struggling.

    • Thank you for opening your life and sharing with us Samantha. Selena and I will be praying for you and I know many other Fierce couples will be as well.

      Do you ever pray together?

      • Samantha Thompson

        We do not pray together. Unless it’s grace at a family function. He isn’t into that. But I have asked.

        • That can certainly make things harder. Stay strong, Samantha, and don’t lose faith. It’s easier said than done, I know. We’re praying for and with you.

    • LivingWithGrace

      Continue in all prayer in supplication and ask God to reveal to you what is hindering your husbands walk. Continue to be the wife that God has called you to be. Pleasing unto the Lord. 1Peter 3:1-6 says Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement. May God bless you and keep you and your family. Until the day of our lord Jesus Christ.

    • Paul Couturier

      I’m in a similar situation, except it’s my wife who doesn’t have Christ in her life right now.

  • Tom Clymer

    I was not the husband I should have been or a very committed Christian during any of that. That all changed five years ago but my wife at that point being a baby Christian had had enough. We have been working on marriage for five years now. Her heart has never really been in it. She is bitter and angry towards me and towards God for this and other reasons. She has had a few emotional affairs over the last five years and I have caught them at the beginning. She says she wants to work on our marriage and we are seeing a Christian counselor, but though she says she is trying its obvious to me and the counselor its not the case. I pray for her and our marriage daily that God reaches her heart. I know that if she can get her eyes on God and fall in love with him as I have. That it can all work out. I pray all the things you have mentioned in here. I have grown so much in my faith the last five years and so close to God. He keeps telling me to be still and wait and that he is working on her in ways I cant see. For me to be still and though I cant trust her due to her lies and history to trust Him for her. But though my faith is strong…..and my trust is strong. I am growing so tired. I made a committed to God for my marriage. But she sees it as a commitment to me. I know God can do anything… on the days I just want to call it quits, I pray even more. Please remember Her and I in your prayers. Her name is Karra. I continue to love her like Christ loved the Church, but I am constantly battling the bitterness feeling that I have lately. Pray for her heart change and to draw close to God. Because until that happens are marriage wil go nowhere. Her heart is harder towards me than God. Pray for me that I can keep hanging in there, even on days like today where I just see no hope in the future. We do attend church weekly. Family devotions and we pray together at night……but she has never truly submitted to God….so how can I expect her to submit in our marriage.

    • Madeline

      I will keep you both in my prayers! Such a blessing to see a man after God’s own heart. May He continue to work in your life and may His will be done in your marriage. :)

      • Tom Clymer

        Thank you

        • Charles Mares

          I’m right there with you brother. I was a fool and unfaithful. I turned to Christ and confessed all to my Christian wife. Over a year and a half later of me showing in every way I can that I am no longer that man, she is still full of bitterness, anger, disdain, apathy and unforgiveness. Her negativity has really worn me out and thin, yet I still hear God’s voice telling me, “Be patient. In my time, not yours.” I’m glad to know I’m not the only one going through this. Stay strong and rely completely on God to get you through this. Remember, a man reaps what he sows. I was unfaithful and lied for 9 years. If I have to go through 9 years of her anger, than to God be the glory and he will make me a better man through it. In the mean time, sow seeds of love and trust at all times and know that God will bring forth a beautiful harvest in the right time.

          • Kailea

            Your words are powerful!! God bless you and your wife!!

          • Nena

            So glad you have a good perspective on this. Pray for her to fully forgive you in God’s timing. You will bear fruit through the pain you are feeling that was once inflicted upon your wife.

    • LivingWithGrace

      Continue with all prayer and supplication brother. Be the husband that God has called you to be. Continue to be the covering over your household and family. Love your wife as Christ love the church. No greater love than a man that lays down his life for his friends. Our savior layed down his life for us, he continually prays on our behalf and he awaits for His glorious church. I recommend a teaching by Derek Prince called Husbands and fathers and How to be a man of God which you can find on youtube. I believe it will enrich and empower your life. God bless you and your family.

    • Wes

      Tom – praying for you Brother. Highly highly recommend the book Discovering the Mind of a Woman by Ken Nair. Be forewarned though, it’s a challenge if I’ve ever experienced one.

  • Levi Phillips

    Currently engaged for 2nd August, created a sticky note on my desktop and going to make a habit of going through these points daily before we get there!

    I’d like to expand on what “taking on concerns” looks like: we can’t stop our spouse worrying, but we can pray into their worries. It should always be Christ’s burden when it comes to worry; bring what they might not be praying about before God and ask Him in sincerity what He’s going to do about it…

    “Oh, what peace we often forfeit;
    Oh, what needless pain we bear
    All because we do not carry,
    Everything to God in prayer.”

    • LivingWithGrace

      May God bless and keep you and your family. I recommend that you watch a couple of teachings by Derek Prince called Husbands and Fathers and How to be a man of God. Awesome teachings. Especially for men to understand who God created them to be and how to be a covering for there household. So that you may be found blameless until the day of our Lord Jesus Christ.

  • Kip

    My wife and I of 21 years have been separated for the last 2 months. We tried a Christian counselor and each time we left angry and was not able to work on anything. I have taken this time to learn more about myself and to grow in God’s Word. She is a Strong Christian Woman who teaches the bible and knows the scriptures. Her heart is broken and hurt right now and she cant find forgiveness. She knows that God hates divorce but she is thinking that will be the next step in a few days. I pray daily for God to soften her heart and to allow forgiveness and to allow a fresh start at restoring our Marriage. I trust HIS plans and know that he is in control. Please pray that her heart will be changed and allow US to work on this marriage.

    • John

      The book from the movie “Fireproof” is a real good life changer. 40 days of dating your wife is what changes the heart.

  • Kay

    My relationship is in need of a divine intervention, praying and fasting for a miracle of healing and full restoration.Please pray for his heart to be changed and greater love between us. INJNA

  • Paul Couturier

    My wife left the Church before we met, and is now a non-practicing unitarian universalist. Unfortunately, she sees “religion” as nothing more as some club to join that happens to match your personal beliefs. She claims the Church doesn’t provide her with “spiritual sustenance” (her words, which is nothing more than her politically correct way of saying the Church doesn’t do anything for her!). We did, however, have a Church wedding because she knew it was important to me, though she grudgingly attended the Marriage Prep afternoon we were required to attend before our wedding day. I obviously pray for her every day. Currently, I can tell she’s depressed and stressed these days, and has withdrawn from me emotionally for the most part due issues I won’t go into here.
    So many of you are probably asking; WHY did you enter into Marriage with her? Well, she really IS a good woman who I deeply love! So those of you reading this; if you could pray, mostly that she eventually return to the Church (I see occasional hopeful signs!), but for her immediate needs; her depressed and stressed state, and that her heart be opened to the Christian love I have for her!
    Thank you everyone!

  • TWK

    I’m praying daily for the restoration of my marriage. I let too many “passions” get in between my wife and me. In the last 7 months of separation God has promised me many times that He’s going to restore my marriage and I’m holding on to each and every one. God has awakened me in this process in a big way but now I’m really struggling with the wait time. Asking God to give me the strength to endure this season!

  • Alan

    Please pray for my Marraige. I have not always been a shining example of a Christ led husband. We are currently separated and we are both in counseling. There is much work to do but I am believing in God for a reconciliation. My wife is hesitant to even talk about that although she is not demanding to love to the next stage as of yet either. Please pray for wisdom, softening of hearts and protection from the enemy

    • Alan, thank you for sharing openly. Keep strong, and keep going hard after God. We will be praying for wisdom, soft hearts, and protection.

  • Ryan, I like this. The important thing to remember in Principle 2 with ref to the scripture you listed is that our request to God must please Him. It’s not about what we want. It’s about God. How are we honoring and glorifying Him. We can’t make this about us. We received something in the mail from one of the org’s we support that is quite helpful in praying over family members, especially spouses. It’s scripture cards that relate to lifting family members in prayer. It’s great!

    • Great point! I actually edited the point slightly to draw more attention to that truth. Thanks Kimberly.

  • ICT

    We are a Christian family. However, he
    recently became unfaithful and nearly destroyed our marriage in Aug 2013. I
    remember the day I discovered everything.. I heard “be still and know that
    I am God” as I came through an intersection.. The affair went on for
    months and I filed for divorce (after 20 years) but we haven’t gone through with it. I find
    myself angry sometimes with God and him. I am hurt, confused, and sometimes a
    mess. I did turn to someone else eventually. But then he asked for reconciliation
    and I agreed. I find myself numb sometimes. It’s hard to hear “I love
    you” when you have seen those things being said to someone else (I
    discovered e-mails, jewelry purchased for her, vacations planned). Most of all,
    It’s hard to break down the castle of stone around my heart and let him back
    in.. I fear mostly that it will happen again- and I NEVER want to feel that
    pain again in this life. I feel that I disobeyed God when he said to “be
    still” or maybe he meant Be still in my faith. idk-either way, I
    disobeyed. We tried counseling (didn’t work out). We have done better on our
    own. I ask for prayer for my family to be whole again. We have teenagers and I
    know this has affected them. I feel the kids and I are a lot closer since the
    reconciliation. For that, I am thankful. It’s hard being the homeschool mom,
    demanding respect in the class room one min. and the next your cooking and
    talking about the weekend plans with the kids; the husband comes in and props
    in recliner “because he had a hard day”. The kids have since went to
    a Christian private school and I am working full time. I’ve tried to see my
    imperfections and better myself. With that I have to soften my heart and open
    it to him again. I pray for his strength to hang in there with me until I am
    able to completely let him in again. I thank you for your prayers.

    • T

      Praying for you both right now.

    • Donna

      I have been where you are. I know the pain & every time I hear of someone else I feel that pain.
      I can tell you that God can & will heal the pain. I might say to not expect things to be as they were. However, they can be better than they were.
      My marriage isn’t perfect but that is why I need to lean on God every day.
      I will pray for you and ask God to restore your marriage to better than ever.
      God will use this difficult time to help others. I know it is very hard to believe at this time. But He can & will. He loves you more than any man ever will. Believe that.
      I would recommend Renee Swopes book A Confident Heart.
      Hugs & prayers.

  • Deanna

    I entered into a marriage of different faiths, my husband is Catholic, I was raised baptist but have been going to a more modern Christian church after not going at all for several years. I was born again at 9, and have failed miserably at my faith and being a child of God. I now have a daughter that I’m trying to lead a better godly example for as well as for my husband. I’ve been back in church and I try to often talk about God to him but he just doesn’t “get” it. I ask him to stop using bad language especially around our daughter and he usually comes back making a rude comment about how he’s not trying to be like my christian parents. He is 25 and I am 22. He is now speaking about how he wants to enlist in the navy. I’m not sure if this is what God wants for us, as well as I am trying to properly turn him to Christ. I could really use some prayers. Thank you.

    • Deanna, good job fighting fiercely for a godly marriage. Keep in mind that true change only happens from the inside out, and Christ is the only expert in “inside change”.

      Keep praying, and keep seeking God. Focus on letting God change you, and find your fullness in Him. We’re praying with you!

  • I have been with my now husband going on 11 year we had our first child when we were both 18yrs an the sec child came two yrs later, last year we finally agreed it was time to get married all was good and well until I discovered that my fiancé the man I had given my all too was with another woman and she was pregnant and he was possibly the father my hurt was crushed anger tears pain me questioning God Why me but I told myself my children deserve to have both their parents and my and my fiancé wet to counseling with our pastor then 2 months later we got married then the test results came back and confirmed he in fact was the father I cried but I knew God was doing something I had to keep reminding myself god won’t give me more than I can handle. We have been through so much with out relationship but sometimes the trials we go through we have to accept and know there’s a reason Behind it all. My husband now has been sober going on a ur and it had been the most amazing thing in the world he has turned into my best friend all over again now our family is extended and hopefully soon we can have this beautiful little baby in our family with us and him my children & I can show how special he is. Life is not easy but it’s how u handle situations like this that define who you are and I choose to do the way Jesus wants me to handle it and with him or me who can be against me. My family will make we will grow stronger esp with God as the center point in our life so I pray for my husband everyday to protect his heart and his mind and I do ask god to convict is heart if he’s doing something he’s not suppose to. If it was for God I wouldn’t of made it this far and I plan to keep pushing forward with God right by my side

  • Elizabeth

    I loved your post. This was very encouraging! Keep up the great work. I don’t pray often for my husband, but need to. Not really for any good reason, other than I just pray for other things. I will try to incorporate this into my prayer life in the future. Thanks for the post.

  • Scott

    Please pray for me, I’m finding it quite difficult to show the kind of love to my wife that she needs. Pray that my selfishness and pride will subside and that I can be the husband God calls me to be! I love the work you guys are doing by the way, it’s been very encouraging to my wife and I.

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  • Jennifer

    Life has throw us some curves lately and I am struggling. I am married to a man suffering from PTSD and he no longer loves himself. Due to his job type I am limited to who I can talk to. But we need prayer for healing and communication.

  • Gary

    I would like to say first off I really love your page it has helped me through the difficult times I am facing. My wife and I have been separated for 5 months now and she found another man shortly after we separated, I have not given up on our marriage of 12 yrs. I am asking for continued prayer form you that we will get through this difficult time. We have recently started talking again and trying to get things back on track. I have gone through spiritual counseling with my church and that has helped me a lot. But now I am reaching out to you for more prayer and spiritual guidance as I find myself letting in the enemy in at times and it makes it difficult to continue fighting. In closing I just want to thank you for Fierce Marriage it is a wonderful and uplifting page that I go to everyday for help with my current situation.
    Thank you,

  • This is a brilliant post. I am an unmarried gal serving the Lord and I’ve actually been praying for my future husband every day, the things the Lord has inspired me to pray for and about this man. Many things were on this list, but this article sheds some new insights as well. Us single folks need to take more heed to preparing in prayer for our marriages. It’s so exciting!!!!

  • kmt

    My husband of 15 years got saved and baptized 3 years ago. This was a huge answer to prayer. However, his behavior has not changed. It’s like he thinks he can keep living his old life because now he has a “free pass” into Heaven. I struggle daily to be the woman, wife and mother that God wants me to be. Although, I often feel defeated. He is not being the husband or father that God calls him to be and I worry about the impact this has on our kids. Also, my husband recently lost his job. I have been praying and seeking God that He would open up the right job for my husband. I feel like our marriage and family suffers and misses out on God’s blessings because my husband is not walking with God like he should be. I want God to bless my husband with a new job but due to his behavior how can I expect God to do that? So, in turn, our family seems to continue to suffer. Will God bless my husband on account of my prayers even when he’s not living for God?

  • tjccfarm

    My husband and I have been married for 7 yrs, together 10. I pray daily for God to convict my husband’s heart and show him why pornography can no longer be a part of his life if we are to have a healthy marriage. Without going into much detail, I will just say that our sex life has been extremely negatively affected by his apparent addiction to pornography. I have decided the only way that I am going to see change is to pray for him and the specific issues he has, love stronger, and be the kind of wife that I am commissioned to be by God. Since I have begun to learn how to pray for change in this area, I have seen a few minor changes in my husband, but I am still aware that, even though he tries to keep the habit hidden…I know what I know and I can tell when it’s an issue. Please pray for God to show my husband that he can overcome this addiction and restore our sex life to that of a healthy marriage. I will never give up.

  • trisha

    wow… I bumped into this blog because i constantly look for words of
    encouragement to keep me goign in my marriage.. i married for life and
    my husband was a christian and no longer is… he made peace with the
    fact that church, prayers, bible are all set up to scare us… married
    for 7 years and it has been years that my husband looked at me in the
    eyes and said i love u.. but he says it daily to many women in his phone
    via social media… i decided never to look into his phone, emails
    because i always get hurt.. always say to change but never does, refuses
    counseling or meeting with church leaders, etc.. it feels great to read
    and see what God does in other couples.. I pray and hope that one day i

  • PrioritizingUs&StartingOver

    I feel blessed to have found this group. My husband and I just renewed oir vows after 15 years of marriage. It was so important to me that we did that because these last 2 1/2 years have been hard and there have been times when It was hard for to remember why we were married. My husband and I Christian. I want to put us first everyday. I want a better stronger marriage built on prayer. Where do I sart?

  • Jackie M.

    Please pray that me and my husband can mend our 31 yr. marriage. May my husband find love in his heart for me again.

  • Royal C

    I have been praying for my husband’s heart and mind in line with your post. Please pray With me. I feel he is using his head to get through the rough time in our marriage than he is allowing God and the Holy Spirit to guide and teach him.

  • rose

    Please pray with me for my husband. He is addicted to social media page, (woman with tatto on her body), woman with gun, he make excuses that because he likes tattoos n guns. When I told him that in not happy with this, he get upset.

  • My hubby has brain damage from mercury poisoning. His problems mimic Alzheimer’s. He knows he has problems & memory & cognitive ability loss. His biggest fear is that he might someday forget the God he loves so much. I think in reality it has made him trust God more, but I do pray that the Lord will help him keep what he has & that He will never allow him to forget God. Married 35 years. He also gets frustrated when he realizes he has forgotten something that has hurt me. I keep telling him it is not his fault, but he feels so guilty about his failures.

  • Sonny

    Please pray for my wife and for me as well. We have been married for 12 years and have also served in the ministry for those years. About 4 months ago she decided she wanted to be someone different (a lot of influence from family and some new friends she had meet on social media) and left. I am trying to stand strong for my children and for me but it’s rough. God has used other people to let me know that He is going to restore her and our marriage. So pray for her to come back to God and pray for me because the waiting is very difficult for me. I love her more and more every day and I miss her so much. Thank you for your prayers.

  • Donna

    This was beautiful. Sometimes we get so caught up with everyone else we tend to forget those closest to us.
    Thank you for sharing this & I will remember to intentionally pray for my husband.
    God bless.

  • M. Fure

    Please pray for the restoration of my wife, me, & marriage. We have been married 11 years. We are both in our mid to late 30’s. Thank you!

  • Standing

    My spouse and I are in the process of divorce =( it is to be “finalized” on the 29th of July 2014, he is choosing to live in the “other” house. I know it is a spiritual warfare, he does not believe in God but use to respect my beliefs. I want to stand for my marriage as stated in scripture God hates divorces. I have been asking God to change me from the inside out to correct my sins, and have been asking God to show me my husband the way he sees him because he is God’s son. I don’t want to give up on my spouse as God never gave up on us. What advice can you give or scriptures to focus on, cause their are days where I get weary and I do not want to be defeated but to stand firm in faith. Prayers are always accepted to. God Bless

  • Jessica Walter

    I just wanted to express my gratitude and appreciation to prophet salifu for bringing my husband back to me,I was married to my husband for 4 years and all of a sudden he started seeing another lady (his mistress).he started hailing at me and he was abusive.. and he hated me , but I still loved him with all my heart . the situation made me unsettle and not to focus at work .so a friend told me about trying (prophet salifu )spiritual means to get my husband back and introduced me to him ? i did not listen to her and hoped that my husband will come back home . after 9 month of seperation and depression , it got out of hand and my husband came back home to break the news to me that he want a divorce that he is getting married to his mistress .Hmmm it was so shocking to me ,i felt sad and more depressed ,so i contacted my friend again and decieded to try to use spiritual means reluctantly..although I didn’t believe in all those things? I never thought in a million years that i will get my husband back to me a again. but I was proved wrong.after 24 hours, my husband came back and was pleading..he had realized his mistakes..i just couldn’t believe it that we are back together. I am deeply satisfied and thankful with prophet salifu work .if you also want to fix you marriage or relationship email him at [email protected] or [email protected] , his work is for a better life .

  • Kylie

    Please pray for my husband and our marriage. He led me to Christ and I lost my way. I never prayed for him, I was never in his corner. Instead I allowed myself to be filled with hate and resentment for him failing to live up to my expectations. I was mean and cruel to him. Looking back there were a lot of signs I needed to fix my priorities and my heart- and acknowledge that the best way my husband could grow was to pray for him and respect him. And now, though we explicitly have stated divorce is not an option, last Thursday he told me he wanted out. He’s taken steps. He’s barely come home since then and he’s taken his ring off. This has been a wake up call for me and I have turned my heart to God and been covering him in prayer. I know there is a purpose for our marriage, even though my husband doesn’t believe it anymore. He has given up and lost hope in everything he once held sacred. I ask that anyone who reads this will pray for him to find his way home to me again and that through Christ I will be the wife I always should have been. Pray that our marriage will be protected and that God will save us from the enemy.

  • KO

    Thank you for this encouraging post. My husband of 6 years recently had an extramarital affair. We have since turned to Christ in our own ways. We were on the path to marital repair & now have taken a step back. Please pray for us individually, our marriage, & strength to start this uphill battle.

  • Pola Yousif

    pray for my husband.. pray that god send him angel to open hes eyes again to see what he is doing wrong. pray for hes heart to be soften. pray for hes fake friends to disspear and to come back home to hes wife where all the love is.. please pray for my marriage to reunite again as i miss my husband so much and i love him and i only want him

  • Me

    I ask for prayers on keeping my husband away from temptation while he is away for work. It is so hard to see him looking and talking to other women, seeing him say the nice things he says to me. I pray that I can give him the attention that he is so badly craving while being away. I can’t tell him that I know what he’s been doing so all I can do is pray for his heart. This has been such a struggle but it has really opened my eyes and brought me closer to God!

  • Deana

    Pray for employment. Thank you.

  • mp

    We are newly married and blending our families. It is a second marriage for us both, and we both found Jesus once our lives fell apart, and then found each other. ease pray our marriage pleasing to god, that I become a more Christlike wife, and he becomes more of a leader.

  • Matt

    Great post! Thank you!

    Helpful note: You accidentally misused the term “converse” in the paragraph about God interceding for us.

  • joyce

    Ok I loved your simplicity and at the same time powerful words. We are a Christian family. But our problem since we got married 9 years ago that it’s always me who asks to pray together. My husband doesn’t do that part and doesn’t show willingness all the time to do that. I pray for him. He works for so many hours which leaves no room for real prayer time. That makes me disappointed a lot and at the same time feeling insecured. I talked with him about that so often but if I didn’t ask for it he never does. We have 2kids and I really wish that they grow up in a family who prays together and to see their parents praying together and reading the bible. Please pray with me 4that issue that my husband realizes the importance of his role in prayer for the family. Be blessed.

    • Thanks for sharing Joyce. Keep praying and loving your husband like Christ; God is faithful!

  • Ika

    We need prayers desperately as my husband may lose his job soon. While we will be ok if he loses his job, I worry for him if he has no work. I pushed him to take this new job because it sounded like a goos opportunity and now I feel awful because he never wanted to leave his old job. I pray for him daily and love him so much. I don’t want him to go through this.

  • Giles

    I recently accepted Jesus into my life, my wife and family have been praying for it and talking to me about it for years. It has already been placed on my heart and I have been praying myself, but the honest push I needed and got was my wife telling me she wants a divorce. As I have been pulling myself out of the shock and depression, I finally opened my heart fully. However in that time she has met someone else, and while I have been fighting to save our marriage I fear losing it and her. I have been praying for her heart to remain soft and for her happiness as well. I pray the same for me, as well as for the chances to reconcile and restore our marriage. Most of all I have been praying for strength and patience, to keep my heart soft as well. I have considerable fault in the status of our marriage and guilt. I have been praying for strength to continue to change and improve on the man I am and fight the temptation and lies that trouble me asi give my wife the space she needs, and most importantly pray for God’s Grace on her to restore her and keep her close to him.

  • Love my husband

    My husband is in another country on a business trip for three weeks with a single attractive co worker. I really struggle with the thought of them being in side by side hotel rooms, having breakfast lunch and dinner together, sightseeing on their time off and of course working together every day. I do trust my husband. I have seen countless friends and family fall victim to adultery that I believed were rock solid. I know what to pray for I try to block my bad thoughts but it is impossible. He does me his love but is not one to offer any reassurances. He does call each day but he doesn’t share anything other than one word answers to questions i ask. For example where did you go today? We drive to a city called xxxxxx. That’s it, no more. I would love to know what he saw, what they did in that city what do they talk about. Is that a fair need? Any help would be appreciate.

  • RJ

    Pray that my husband comes back to me whole heartedly with God’s spirit pouring through his veins. I am going through a difficult time and WE need guidance.

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  • klc

    We are separated since November. He has cheated in the past, and I have trust issues. I love him. I want my marriage bk. I’m afraid it may be too late.

  • klc

    Please pray for my hubby. We have been married for 3&1/2 years and we are already separated. He has cheated, he watches porn, is on all manners of social networking/dating sites, and has passworded all electronic gadgets. I want to trust him… I feel rejected and neglected more often than I feel secure. I have tried to overlook some things… Our marriage needs the Lord. I want to fight for my marriage. He is not on the same page as me. I know I love him or it would be easy to walk away. I am not without fault here, but his track record is bad. Pls pray for us. That God will intervene and we will find our way back to each other. Thanks guys.

  • Liz

    My husband of 11 years decided to break up with me and requested a divorce over the Christmas holiday, 2 weeks after he left our home to ‘think’. It wasn’t until after he broke up with me that he told me that he hasn’t been happy or in love with me for a while. The heartbreak keeps coming. I love being married to him, and want to stay his wife, and make things work. I know I have not always put God first in my marriage or my life, but I am working to change that in me. I keep praying for my husband to come back and realize that the grass is not greener, that I/we can move past this and fall back in love. Sadly he has said that he has locked the doors and windows and has thrown out the key to us reconciling. I am heart broken and left in our home with all his belongings. I pray for him, for wisdom, clairty and discernment. And for me to be strong enough to handle this.

  • discouraged western newyorker

    My wife n I have been best friends for 14 yrs. Been together for 4 and those 4 yrs were arduous. She use to believe in our Lord savior but has cease and turned pagan due to her lack of trust In God as a child very nasty child hood. Her flirtatious ways with our neighbor have upset me to the point I fought with her to gain an apology. She walked out 5 months ago and had an emotional.affair with our neighbor came back and hasn’t put forth an effort into our blessing at the time I didn’t understand the power of space and trust. But as of recent last Sunday she wants a divorce I hold her wedding ring around my neck close to my heart since she took it off. I pray every day when I can while holding her symbol of love. She has since been abandoning me for her 42 yr old new best friend and has turns a hardened heart towards me I ask the good lord to soften her heart when he can. And I feel bad for god cuz he carrys on alot of burden from everyone. It’s like he doesn’t get a break poor guy. That’s y I feel bad for asking him to help restore our sacred covenant he bestowed upon us. My wife is in a bad place and is very lost. I look in her eyes and beyond the pain and despair I’ve caused I can see the woman I fell in love with shackled n chained In. A dark room. I feel so helpless cause I cannot penetrate her defenses and save her. I cry 2 times a day for our daughter and her son. She wants to move out at the end of this month. And I ask God to prevent this.i don’t want my daughter to have a broken home. This is home our home. I repent my sins of being nasty with words towards her it was only self defense and I didn’t kno any better. I ask humbly to please pray for my family that it doesn’t get broken up by the Devils minions in her mind keepin her captive. And to save.our marriage. I am a soldier of christ and my sworn duty is to serve and protect my family and christ himself. But I cannot do this.alone I ask brothers and sisters for ur help in restoring this newly weds marriage. Been married for 8 months
    Thank u all and god bless you

  • SBVS

    I’m looking out for marriage with a long term friend of mine… We have been courting each other since long time now. Now when the talks of marriage are about to start he turned down saying his mother isn’t happy with me and wants to choose a girl all by herself for her son.
    So i pray each day for the family reconciliation and also my relationship restoration including all the prayers that a wife prays for a husband n his family…though we r not one yet…i pray that god guards his heart. Prayer brought us together held us together in tough times. It has been long time since all these happened…over 4months may be..and my prayer is that our parents should accept us and our longing for eachother and most importantly gods will over us…pls pray.
    Thank u

  • Sam

    I have a very unique and difficult situation that I am asking advise on. My story is long but I wont type it all out because that would take a day or two. My husband and I married in 2013; but he has never been moved in his heart to be a husband to me as he promised me in 2011 when we first met. I believe God for what he is doing in my life and I trust he is moving on my behalf in my marriage but honestly it is very hard and discouraging to not have your spouse uplift you as your partner and what makes it even harder is that we both are saved and baptized and he is in ministry. He asked me to marry him in 2012 and said he would be the best Husband God shows him how to and he will protect me. But just before we were married he ex (also his daughter mother) wanted to be back with him and he obviously still had some type of feelings for her and that put a strain on our relationship and is today putting a strain on our marriage. I know you may say I should had never agreed to marry him, but I took it to God and trusted him to work on his heart as well as in my heart. I love my husband and not one day have I ever denied him or treated disrespectfully or dishonored our marriage. We now have a son together and we are now having another baby. I do everything for him, I try to understand what he is facing and I cover him in prayer everyday, but it seems hopeless sometimes because I know what I am praying for is not evil or anything bad, I just want my husband to do right by me and treat as his wife not only sometimes but always. Thank you.

  • jdhnjk

    My husband left me for his mistress( who he apparently loved more )after finding out im pregnant, in need of prayer

  • katherineschantz

    I pray daily for my husband, Ira’s salvation

  • AFT

    Please pray for my marriage. My husband started talking with one of his old class mates and I found the messages. I did confront him. He never truly apologized but said he had stopped. I want to believe him but I don’t know how to trust him again. I find myself having flash backs of those messages in my head. he seem to not really care about prayers any more and goes out a lot. please i need prayers to have my once loving husband back and for him to be more closer to God.

  • Greg

    My wife and I grew up in christian homes. But, when we got married we were not attending church on any type of regular basis, nor praying together or any thing of the sort. I lost my way even farther on how I treated her and went as far as emotional affairs. She has filed for divorce and I have to file my response to keep from going default in the proceedings. I realized how far I had gotten from God and have turned my life around for good. As I have been on this path for 2 months and continue to grow in it. She sees the change but, is still hurt and afraid of the what ifs of her coming back to try to work things out. We don’t talk much and she’s been living elsewhere than our home since the day she said she was done which was a little over 2 months ago. She is out of town right now and I am committed to our marriage and to making it work. My greatest commitment is to God and being the husband he has desired and commanded me to be even though she is gone. I ask for prayers that we may resolve our marriage and that God may extend his mercy and grace upon her heart because I do not know where she is spiritually right now.

  • Gerald LaBau

    Pray for me and my wife Christy. She is turning to other men and has so much anger and bitterness toward me. We started divorce but God has said he is going to restore but the waiting and seeing her with these others intimately is hard. God has told me through other Christians and myself to wait and pray the reconciliation is coming. Please pray for her heart and her turning back to God

  • Wes

    Please pray for the restoration and reconciliation of my relationship. I am certain I heard God promise 4 months ago to bring us back together. But this journey has been one of incredible pain. God is maturing me emotionally and spiritually, but I never knew that becoming more like Christ was such a painful process. Please pray that her spirit would reopen to my own and that our love would grow with every passing day. Thank you and God bless!

  • AF

    Please pray for the restoration of my marriage. My husband of 22 yrs has left with the other woman. Our family is so broken. We love him so much.

  • danielle

    After my break up, I sat in my bed all day, every day. I cried constantly I actually started to Google ways to get over a broken heart, and that’s when I found your email I just wanted to thank you so much for your help. It has gotten me through a lot, and I appreciate it immensely thank you for bringing my husband back to me and our kids thank you [email protected] com you are truly a blessing.