I was traveling for work recently and the flight home was one of the most surreal experiences I’ve had lately. It was a long day of travel with the last leg being a late flight, scheduled for arrival at 10pm. Darkness coupled with foggy Seattle weather made for a particularly perilous landing…or so I thought.
3 Surprising Truths About Losing & Finding True Intimacy
Every couple wants greater intimacy. There’s nothing like feeling truly connected to one another – like you’re walking in sync, your hearts are beating to the same rhythm, and you don’t know where you end and your spouse begins. It’s truly, truly remarkable. I’d even say it’s a miracle. What is it about the marriage bond that allows us such astounding intimacy? Why are we wired…
3 Marriage ‘Mines’ and How to Avoid Them
No idea has impacted our marriage quite like the concept of biblical stewardship. When you hear that word you may have preconceptions about what it means, like how it probably has to do with your finances. That’s part of it, but stewardship is so much more! The biggest game changer for us was the notion that we are stewards, not owners, of everything we have.…
Tragedy, Community, and the Church Being the Church
Tuesday night I visited the family of a high school friend, Matt, in the hospital. Matt was hospitalized the Sunday prior because of an unknown congenital heart defect that resulted in catastrophic heart failure. I got to visit him in his room that night I went to visit. We prayed with him briefly and just stood beside the bed trying to make sense of everything. What…
5 Things Having a Daughter Has Taught Me About Loving My Wife
Having a daughter has taught me more about being a good husband than I ever thought possible. The idea is simple: what if I saw my wife through God’s eyes? How would I change how I treated her? Loved her? Cared for her? As you can imagine, seeing your spouse through God’s eyes changes everything. Everything. This post will hopefully show you just a few of the…
3 Ways to Hear Her Heart: Decrypting Your Wife’s Words
Gentlemen, this post is for you. Let’s just be honest, we aren’t wired like our wives; especially when it comes to communication. Sometimes it feels like she’s speaking a completely foreign language. We try to listen and respond the best way we know how; why does it sometimes have the complete opposite of the intended effect? This has happened to us more times than I care…
5 Phrases Wives Can Say to Deeply Encourage Their Husbands
As a husband, I realize my primary role is to serve my family with Christ-like love and tenderness. I’m called to love sacrificially–and that means seeking Selena’s and Dela’s needs before my own. I don’t always succeed, but by God’s grace, sometimes I do (hopefully more than not). How do I serve my family with Christ-like love and tenderness? Most days, half the battle is figuring that…
Why the World Needs Your Marriage
I’ll just be honest, I’ve been having a rough couple of weeks; very rough. However, my hope is strong. I’m not 100% sure what this post will accomplish, but I’m compelled to share just in case you feel like me. Disclaimer: it’s mostly not a warm-fuzzy post. Also, it’s long.
Our 30 Minute Massage Experiment: His Perspective
I didn’t want to do this experiment. No desire at all… but I’m actually very glad we did. Denis and Emma, the creators of Melt: Massage for Couples, had been trying to get a hold of me via email for over a year! (…sorry guys) After speaking with Denis, Selena and decided to give it a try. Selena shared her perspective in a previous post –…
3 Proverbs That Are Rocking Our Marriage (Part 2)
So… I’ve been plowing through the book of proverbs recently and as the title indicates, it’s been rocking our faces off. This post is the second of a two-part series, so you may want to start by reading the first post if you haven’t already (in fact, I highly recommend it). As I mentioned in the previous post, I’m seeing themes develop throughout the book…