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3 Proverbs That Are Rocking Our Marriage (Part 1)

I’ve been reading the book of Proverbs a ton lately and I must say, I don’t read it enough. And I should probably read at least one chapter a day for the rest of my life. Note to self…

As I’m plowing through the book, it’s most interesting to see two-part themes–those with contrasted and opposing ideas–develop that help distinguish between those on the good side of wisdom and those on its bad side. Here are some of the themes I’ve picked up on (I’m about halfway through the book):

  1. Wisdom vs foolishness
  2. Diligence vs laziness
  3. Righteousness vs wickedness
  4. Listeners vs scoffers
  5. Truthfulness vs deceitfulness
  6. Remembering vs forgetting (God’s goodness)

All of the bolded words fall into the realm of wisdom and the non-bolded words, foolishness. As I read, I feel compelled to act as a man of wisdom. I feel God’s sweet conviction as he peels away at my foolishness and pokes at my folly. It stings so bitterly and feels so encouraging at the same time. Perhaps this proverb explains the upside:

My son, do not despise the LORD’s discipline
or be weary of his reproof,
for the LORD reproves him whom he loves,
as a father the son in whom he delights.

Proverbs 3:11-12

There are other stingers to be sure; just about every other verse. That’s the point of this post: to share 3 Proverbs that are rocking my face off. And more relevantly, how they are rocking my marriage (and hopefully yours).

3 proverbs that are rocking our marriage

Proverb #1: Working our land vs worthless pursuits

Whoever works his land will have plenty of bread,
but he who follows worthless pursuits lacks sense.

Proverbs 12:11

This proverb is about stewardship, focus, gratefulness, and wisdom. I’ll explain…

Many times we tend to play the comparison game with people around us. We try to keep up, so we get into unhealthy habits like being ungrateful for what we’ve been given, or spending in ways that aren’t wise.

For me (as a husband and the main income provider in our family), I feel convicted about the things I spend my working life pursuing. I have lots of ideas, maybe even lots of great ideas, but they’re not great for us. If I pursue “good” ideas and sacrifice God’s ideas, I’m pursuing the wrong things. God has placed his call on us in a specific way for this season: to point couples to Him and help them build lifelong marriages based on Christ. If I don’t focus on “working our land”, I can get caught up in “worthless pursuits”, or rather, pursuits that are worthless in comparison to what God has called us to do.

Finally, this proverb reminds us not to spend our time in the “far off” lands of Facebook, Instagram, or whatever other phone-vortex tries to steal our focus and time. Our land includes our marriage, our family, and our quality time together. We’re learning to put our (expletive) phones away and just be PRESENT together.

Summary: be grateful for the “land” we’ve been given, pursue God’s call before (sometimes good) distractions, and don’t follow worthless pursuits in the form of screen-based media.

In the next post

Sorry to do this, but this post is longer than I planned so I’m going to break it into another part. Stay tuned for numbers 2 and 3. I promise I’ll post them tomorrow morning! The next two things should prove very helpful – I know they have for us.

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UPDATE: Part 2 has been posted here!


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  • Glenda

    Love all your posts. This is a long shot, but do you offer your posts in Spanish? My husband appeals limited English and your posts bout be such a blessing to him in Spanish.

    • Glenda

      *speaks not appeals

    • We don’t currently, but I think some folks have translated them (though I wouldn’t be able to tell you where they’re posted). It would be incredible to offer content in Spanish… perhaps one day!

    • Steve Mallory

      Glenda, most web browsers like Chrome and Firefox can be displayed in different languages. In Chrome you go to Settings then Advanced Settings then look for “Languages” section. I am not 100% sure that all content can be translated is the only thing and I haven’t tried it, but might be worth a shot.

  • Way to get real with reminding us about “worthless pursuits,” including unconsciously comparing ourselves to others via social media; pursing projects/ideas that consume our time, but perhaps not in the direction that God has called us to be in this season. As a spouse surviving another deployment, and an active duty officer-mommy of a toddler, with one on the way, there are a lot of competing priorities! But I know that in this season, God is calling me to find balance, stay in His word and make FAMILY my second priority after Him. Thanks for bringing this scripture to light so clearly!!

    • Thanks for the insight! And, thanks for your kinds words. :)