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May 28, 2015

Hi, we’re Ryan and Selena Frederick.

Ryan & Selena, authors and curators of Fierce Marriage

Fierce Marriage is our blog devoted to helping couples build better marriages. We believe that building a Christ-centered marriage requires a fierce tenacity that never gives up and never gives in; there is no Plan B. When we vowed “Till death do us part”, we meant it!

Here we hope you find lots of useful advice that can help your marriage! We encourage you to join our mailing list, find us on Facebook/Twitter/Instagram, and please share your thoughts by commenting on posts.  – Ryan & Selena

Every Marriage Needs a Savior

April 2, 2015 |

Being authors of a marriage blog comes with its ups and downs. On the upside we get to be on the receiving end of encouraging messages (thank you!).

On the downside, it’s super easy to coast along, feeling like you have it all together as a married couple… but believe me, there are seasons where we feel as if we are coexisting rather than being married. Read More

Husbands: How to Cast Vision and Why It’s Important

March 19, 2015 |

As a husband, Selena looks to me to lead our family. She desires decisive, meaningful direction in our marriage and in our lives. Don’t get me wrong, she is definitely involved and vocal as we work together to craft our family vision. (Oh, how I married a strong, smart woman!) But as the husband, the buck ultimately stops with me – I’m responsible to lead lovingly Read More

Video: Blind Devotion

March 11, 2015 |

My wife shared this video with me late last night as I was preparing for bed. She simply texted it to me with a message, “you need to watch this right now”. Selena doesn’t share much in the way of interesting or inspiration articles she finds on the web. So when she insisted I watch, I knew it must be very good. Turns out, she was right.

This short film is all about selfless devotion and love. While I had a hint of what to expect based on the title alone, there was an unexpected turn in the video that honestly made me tear up. I don’t want to give away the plot so I’ll leave it at that. Watch, then continue reading below if you’d like… Read More

7 Reasons Why ‘Getting Away’ is Good for Your Marriage

March 6, 2015 |

Getting away with your spouse is a vital part of keeping things renewed and fresh. This means taking time to intentionally disconnect from your everyday world and reconnect with your life partner. I strongly believe that getting away should be a regular (at least monthly) occurrence in marriages; here’s why… Read More

Pursuing Deep Intimacy

February 19, 2015 |

We’ve all had those moments in our marriage where it seems like everything is perfectly synchronized.

It’s like a beautiful song; everyone is on the same wavelength; hubby understands everything we’re saying, both of you are on the same page about everything; intimacy is amazing and you’re marriage feels like it’s thriving on every level.

And then the inevitable conflict happens. Read More

Young couple: if we could have coffee together, here’s the one thing I’d tell you

February 5, 2015 |

Someone asked me the other day, “If you could have coffee with every young couple who reads your blog, what would you say to them?

The question caught me off guard and I didn’t know how to answer them right away. After a few days of hashing through quick responses, I kept coming up short. I even asked our Facebook family what they’d say (below); the comments are awesome, but I felt that if I had ONE opportunity I’d want to find the perfect topic. Read More

Sean Lowe: Faith, Fighting Fiercely and His First Year of Marriage

January 26, 2015 |

Ryan and I had the privilege of sitting down with last season’s The Bachelor, Sean Lowe, to talk about his first year of marriage to the lovely Catherine (Guidici) Lowe (who had a prior commitment). We asked him some pretty pointed questions about his faith in Jesus, how he fights fiercely for Catherine in their marriage, and how they navigate being normal newlyweds despite their not-so-normal dating relationship. Read More

The Mingling of Souls | An Interview with Matt Chandler

January 23, 2015 |

Few pastors have had as potent an impact on our lives and marriage as Matt Chandler. This came as an unexpected surprise when I began listening to The Village Church podcast last May. Why? Certainly, Matt is a gifted communicator but that’s not the source of his effectiveness. Many men are gifted communicators, but what makes Matt’s preaching really stick when Selena and I hear it is that he is unquestionably dedicated to one thing: the gospel. Read More