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July 31, 2015

Hi, we’re Ryan and Selena Frederick.

Ryan & Selena, authors and curators of Fierce Marriage

Fierce Marriage is our blog devoted to helping couples build better marriages. We believe that building a Christ-centered marriage requires a fierce tenacity that never gives up and never gives in; there is no Plan B. When we vowed “Till death do us part”, we meant it!

Here we hope you find lots of useful advice that can help your marriage! We encourage you to join our mailing list, find us on Facebook/Twitter/Instagram, and please share your thoughts by commenting on posts.  – Ryan & Selena

3 Proverbs That Are Rocking Our Marriage (Part 1)

May 22, 2015 |

I’ve been reading the book of Proverbs a ton lately and I must say, I don’t read it enough. And I should probably read at least one chapter a day for the rest of my life. Note to self…

As I’m plowing through the book, it’s most interesting to see two-part themes–those with contrasted and opposing ideas–develop that help distinguish between those on the good side of wisdom and those on its bad side. Here are some of the themes I’ve picked up on (I’m about halfway through the book): Read More

The Importance of a Confident Wife

May 14, 2015 |

One of my latest struggles or insecurities has been in the area of confidence as a wife.

Living in “mommy-toddler” world for majority of my day life can sometimes make it difficult to transition into wife mode when hubby gets home. (Not to blame the littles, God knows we love and adore them and are so thankful for their precious lives; please don’t get me wrong.)

I’m just saying that in my experience, it’s easy for me to forget where, or Whom, my confidence and security comes from. Read More

God’s Word: A Light In Our Darkness

May 4, 2015 |

Reading God’s Word in our marriage, and letting it read you is an absolute must.

Not only does it remind us of His promises and the freedom and healing He brings but it keeps us spiritually engaged with our spouse (assuming they are reading God’s Word as well).

Discussing what Jesus is doing in your life with your spouse is important, and one of the fiercest ways you can fight for your marriage daily. And it’s more than reading a quick verse, contemplating it for 30 seconds, praying for 20 seconds and checking off your “devo time” with Jesus.
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5 Habits for a Healthy Marriage

April 29, 2015 |

A little while ago I wrote about the first thing we’d discuss with you if we could have coffee together. Feel free to read that post if you haven’t, but basically we’d talk about your beliefs. Namely, your belief in the person and work of Jesus Christ and what that means for your marriage.

This blog post would be the second conversation we’d have with you. Read More

5 Principles for Creating a Purpose Driven Sex Life

April 9, 2015 |

Sex. A word that used to be taboo is now so commonplace you probably won’t go a day without hearing it at least a few times. Everything seems to have something to do with sex.

It’s funny really, that such a relatively small portion of anyone’s life is given such a heavy emphasis. Why does sex take up so much of society’s conversational bandwidth? Why are we so obsessed? Read More

Every Marriage Needs a Savior

April 2, 2015 |

Being authors of a marriage blog comes with its ups and downs. On the upside we get to be on the receiving end of encouraging messages (thank you!).

On the downside, it’s super easy to coast along, feeling like you have it all together as a married couple… but believe me, there are seasons where we feel as if we are coexisting rather than being married. Read More

Husbands: How to Cast Vision and Why It’s Important

March 19, 2015 |

As a husband, Selena looks to me to lead our family. She desires decisive, meaningful direction in our marriage and in our lives. Don’t get me wrong, she is definitely involved and vocal as we work together to craft our family vision. (Oh, how I married a strong, smart woman!) But as the husband, the buck ultimately stops with me – I’m responsible to lead lovingly Read More

Video: Blind Devotion

March 11, 2015 |

My wife shared this video with me late last night as I was preparing for bed. She simply texted it to me with a message, “you need to watch this right now”. Selena doesn’t share much in the way of interesting or inspiration articles she finds on the web. So when she insisted I watch, I knew it must be very good. Turns out, she was right.

This short film is all about selfless devotion and love. While I had a hint of what to expect based on the title alone, there was an unexpected turn in the video that honestly made me tear up. I don’t want to give away the plot so I’ll leave it at that. Watch, then continue reading below if you’d like… Read More