Marriage Hacks: 25 Practical Ways to Make Love Last... July 25, 2014 | Ryan Frederick
How Our Friendships Affect Our Marriage July 23, 2014 | Selena Frederick
The “Phone Drop Test” Every Couple Should Consider... July 10, 2014 | Ryan Frederick
4 Surprising Facets of Transparency in Marriage... June 24, 2014 | Ryan Frederick
From Palms to Pine Trees: Life Lessons and Transitions... June 19, 2014 | Selena Frederick
Announcement: Our Curiously Ambiguous Next Step... June 17, 2014 | Ryan Frederick
Slivers, Secrets, and Shame: Why Transparency in Marriage is an Absolute Must... May 28, 2014 | Ryan Frederick
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Love… It’s a word everyone uses and a concept sought by all. In marriage we make a covenant commitment to love each other whole-heartedly through our actions. We profess it, we show it, we receive it, and we feel it – at least that’s the hope. Love is not something you can check off a list, it’s a way of living, thinking, and doing.
Love is a particularly tricky …
What if we always did exactly what we wanted? God wants us to be happy right, so why not do what brings us happiness? You’re probably already objecting. Anyone over the age of 6 knows you can’t have everything you want whenever it’s available to you. If you’ve ever vomited from an Otter Pop overdose (not that I’ve ever done that…) you’ll understand.
Humans have a strange …
I’m always leery of viral videos and can usually determine if they are worth a watch depending on who posted it (you know it’s true).
Needless to say, we (Ryan and I) felt like this video is somewhat timely with summer on the way. It really struck a chord in us about this never ending battle with technology and its affect on our marriage.
Lately I’ve …
I heard a story of a man and his wife who were having difficulty communicating. She felt undervalued and he felt nagged. She felt that his love for her was fading, and he felt like she was getting overly needy.
Flustered, she explained, “I’m not sure you even love me any more!”.
In response he quipped, “Honey I said I loved you the day I married you and if that ever changes I’ll let you know.”
I’m not sure who said that or if it even happened, but it does reveal some truth about the communication tendencies of men and women in marriage.
A few months back I wrote in depth about how to pray with your spouse. In those posts I covered the mechanics of prayer and we used the Lord’s prayer as our blueprint. I’d encourage you to re-visit those posts briefly, especially if you’re feeling stopped up in how to start a prayer habit in your marriage.
For this post, however, I’d like to remind myself (and of course, readers!) of the power of praying for your spouse. For christians, the power of prayer is something we readily acknowledge but too often forget in practice. This tendency to forget is probably because we haven’t had the deep revelation of what prayer is and why we do it.
Let’s start with that…
Men like to look at pretty ladies. Groundbreaking discovery, I know…
For a Christian guy - i.e., a man who follows Christ wholeheartedly and seeks to live with integrity as a result – this desire presents problems. When a pretty lady passes us on the sidewalk, something inside drives us to look – once, twice, even thrice, or more.
This looking “twice, thrice, or more” is cause for concern. It seems harmless (you’re …