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July 29, 2014

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Hi, we’re Ryan and Selena Frederick.

Ryan & Selena, authors and curators of Fierce Marriage

Fierce Marriage is our blog devoted to helping couples build better marriages. We believe that building a Christ-centered marriage requires a fierce tenacity that never gives up and never gives in; there is no Plan B. When we vowed “Till death do us part”, we meant it!

Here we hope you find lots of useful advice that can help your marriage! We encourage you to join our mailing list, find us on Facebook/Twitter/Instagram, and please share your thoughts by commenting on posts.  - Ryan & Selena

How to Speak Your Spouse’s Love Language (and What to Avoid)

May 21, 2014 | 17

Love… It’s a word everyone uses and a concept sought by all. In marriage we make a covenant commitment to love each other whole-heartedly through our actions. We profess it, we show it, we receive it, and we feel it – at least that’s the hope. Love is not something you can check off a list, it’s a way of living, thinking, and doing.

Love is a particularly tricky … Read More

Out in the Cold: Why Your Marriage is Worth Fighting For

May 8, 2014 | 20

What if we always did exactly what we wanted? God wants us to be happy right, so why not do what brings us happiness? You’re probably already objecting. Anyone over the age of 6 knows you can’t have everything you want whenever it’s available to you. If you’ve ever vomited from an Otter Pop overdose (not that I’ve ever done that…) you’ll understand.

Humans have a strange … Read More

Video: Look Up

May 5, 2014 | 9

I’m always leery of viral videos and can usually determine if they are worth a watch depending on who posted it (you know it’s true).

Needless to say, we (Ryan and I) felt like this video is somewhat timely with summer on the way. It really struck a chord in us about this never ending battle with technology and its affect on our marriage.

Lately I’ve … Read More

5 Phrases Every Wife Needs to Hear Daily

May 2, 2014 | 58

I heard a story of a man and his wife who were having difficulty communicating. She felt undervalued and he felt nagged. She felt that his love for her was fading, and he felt like she was getting overly needy.

Flustered, she explained, “I’m not sure you even love me any more!”.

In response he quipped, “Honey I said I loved you the day I married you and if that ever changes I’ll let you know.”

I’m not sure who said that or if it even happened, but it does reveal some truth about the communication tendencies of men and women in marriage. Read More

Flat Tire Integrity

May 1, 2014 | 3

I had a long, eloquent blog post ready about how and why we need to be wives of integrity…and then I got a flat tire this morning.  Read More

5 Ways to Pray Intentionally for Your Spouse

April 28, 2014 | 55

A few months back I wrote in depth about how to pray with your spouse. In those posts I covered the mechanics of prayer and we used the Lord’s prayer as our blueprint. I’d encourage you to re-visit those posts briefly, especially if you’re feeling stopped up in how to start a prayer habit in your marriage.

For this post, however, I’d like to remind myself (and of course, readers!) of the power of praying for your spouse. For christians, the power of prayer is something we readily acknowledge but too often forget in practice. This tendency to forget is probably because we haven’t had the deep revelation of what prayer is and why we do it.

Let’s start with that… Read More

6 Reasons Men Should Watch Where They Look

April 21, 2014 | 72

Men like to look at pretty ladies. Groundbreaking discovery, I know…

For a Christian guy - i.e., a man who follows Christ wholeheartedly and seeks to live with integrity as a result – this desire presents problems. When a pretty lady passes us on the sidewalk, something inside drives us to look – once, twice, even thrice, or more.

This looking “twice, thrice, or more” is cause for concern. It seems harmless (you’re … Read More

Divorcing Society’s Ideals for Marriage

April 11, 2014 | 5

Ideals wreak havoc on our marriage.

What do I mean by ideals? I mean, those perfect or “ideal” images of married couples we see everywhere we look. Read More