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September 17, 2014

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Hi, we’re Ryan and Selena Frederick.

Ryan & Selena, authors and curators of Fierce Marriage

Fierce Marriage is our blog devoted to helping couples build better marriages. We believe that building a Christ-centered marriage requires a fierce tenacity that never gives up and never gives in; there is no Plan B. When we vowed “Till death do us part”, we meant it!

Here we hope you find lots of useful advice that can help your marriage! We encourage you to join our mailing list, find us on Facebook/Twitter/Instagram, and please share your thoughts by commenting on posts.  – Ryan & Selena

Thankfulness: Learning How to Speak a New Language

July 29, 2014 |

If you asked me how I would describe my life in one word, I would of course have to use two and say “in-between.”

Our latest life adventure has taken us to the small fishing town of Westport, WA where we are blessed to be able to enjoy summer a stone’s throw away from the beautiful Pacific Ocean. Read More

Marriage Hacks: 25 Practical Ways to Make Love Last

July 25, 2014 |

If you do a search for “life hacks”, you’ll get a veritable smorgasbord of results – videos, blog posts, and commentaries – all helpful for streamlining your daily life. A friend recently released a free eBook called “Marriage Hacks: 25 Practical Ways to Make Love Last” with the same goal for young married couples: give young, disillusioned couples a refreshing dose of marital truths. Read More

How Our Friendships Affect Our Marriage

July 23, 2014 |

All too often I’m guilty of allowing ungodly friendships to have a “say” in my marriage.

I’m not saying we’re suppose to shun all of our married unbeliever friends and never hangout with them. What I am saying is that having filters on who we let have a voice in our marriage is a way of fighting fiercely for it. Read More

The “Phone Drop Test” Every Couple Should Consider

July 10, 2014 |

You can tell a person’s character by how they use their smartphone. It’s a veritable thermometer for the health of your integrity.

What would happen if you immediately dropped your phone (unlocked) and your spouse picked it up? What thoughts go through your mind? What would your husband/wife discover? Read More

4 Surprising Facets of Transparency in Marriage

June 24, 2014 |

When we talk about transparency, the response is nearly unanimous: it’s a vital part of marriage and relationships. You really can’t build a meaningful bond with your spouse if you’re hiding part of yourself. But most often, hiding is our first instinct. Read More

From Palms to Pine Trees: Life Lessons and Transitions

June 19, 2014 |

As you most of you probably know, Ryan, Dela and I are in the middle of a major life transition.

And to be honest, the transition is much harder than I anticipated. Suddenly all the little things that frustrated me Read More

Announcement: Our Curiously Ambiguous Next Step

June 17, 2014 |

We’ve had a quiet spell on the blog, this post explains why. In short, things are changing for us and just to clear the air, we’re not pregnant (that we know of!).

Change is tough. Well, usually it’s tough. Change means that whatever you’re used to, comfortable with, and reasonably good at must now be different. The thing about change is that it must happen – you simply cannot avoid it if you want progress. As it turns out, we’re not immune. Read More

Slivers, Secrets, and Shame: Why Transparency in Marriage is an Absolute Must

May 28, 2014 |

Selena and I have had our secrets. We’ve hidden things from each other in our marriage, both purposefully and passively. We’ve masked poor financial choices, hidden sexual addiction, and “failed to mention” costly mistakes. It wasn’t until relatively recently that we discovered the power of transparency in our marriage. Read More