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November 29, 2015

Hi, we’re Ryan and Selena Frederick.

Ryan & Selena, authors and curators of Fierce Marriage

Fierce Marriage is our blog devoted to helping couples build better marriages. We believe that building a Christ-centered marriage requires a fierce tenacity that never gives up and never gives in; there is no Plan B. When we vowed “Till death do us part”, we meant it!

Here we hope you find lots of useful advice that can help your marriage! We encourage you to join our mailing list, find us on Facebook/Twitter/Instagram, and please share your thoughts by commenting on posts.  – Ryan & Selena

3 Ground Rules for Building an Honest Marriage

October 9, 2015 |

Recently I walked out to our patio and started flailing my arms uncontrollably. I’m sure I looked like a fool. Why? Two words: spider web. As I stepped outside I felt that familiar, sticky feeling all over my arms and face. It’s just the worst.

In about 1.2 seconds I transitioned from a calm, collected, fully grown man into full-on, no-dignity, nearly-falling-on-the-ground panic monster. All of my childhood fears flooded back in a torrent of hysterical juking and jiving, kicking and chopping, Read More

5 Things Having a Daughter Has Taught Me About Loving My Wife

September 29, 2015 |

Having a daughter has taught me more about being a good husband than I ever thought possible. The idea is simple: what if I saw my wife through God’s eyes? How would I change how I treated her? Loved her? Cared for her? As you can imagine, seeing your spouse through God’s eyes changes everything. Everything.

This post will hopefully show you just a few of the ways having a daughter has taught me how to love my wife well. Read More

3 Ways to Hear Her Heart: Decrypting Your Wife’s Words

September 4, 2015 |

Gentlemen, this post is for you. Let’s just be honest, we aren’t wired like our wives; especially when it comes to communication. Sometimes it feels like she’s speaking a completely foreign language.

We try to listen and respond the best way we know how; why does it sometimes have the complete opposite of the intended effect? This has happened to us more times than I care to admit. Is it because Selena is hard to communicate with? I don’t think so. Is because I’m dense? Perhaps. We’ve been married for almost 12 years (together for 16), so why do we still face communication issues?  Read More

Ignored Convictions

September 1, 2015 |

Lately, God has been convicting me about my convictions (if that makes sense?). Primarily, what convictions I’ve been ignoring and why. Read More

Her Story: God’s Redemption After My Abortion

August 19, 2015 |

The videos released about Planned Parenthood on social media are disturbing for reasons we are all aware of.

Ryan and I have been praying (a lot) about how to respond to you; the readers, our FM community…on a marriage blog.

We’ve questioned if should respond on social media or would we be adding to the noise? However, as Christians, Ryan and I can’t be silent, because in the midst of death, the radical nature of our God is to bring healing, redemption, forgiveness and life. Staying silent in this conversation about abortion is not an option. Read More

5 Creative Ways to Love Your Husband

August 10, 2015 |

In response to many inquiries we’ve received, here are a few creative ways I’ve discovered to intentionally and authentically love my husband. They aren’t the end all be all, but my hope is that they will help spur other creative ideas, as well as remind us, as wives, how our words and actions can inhibit or spur on our husbands.

Intentionality, creativity, consistency and sincerity – you can’t go wrong shooting for these. Read More

5 Phrases Wives Can Say to Deeply Encourage Their Husbands

July 24, 2015 |

As a husband, I realize my primary role is to serve my family with Christ-like love and tenderness. I’m called to love sacrificially–and that means seeking Selena’s and Dela’s needs before my own. I don’t always succeed, but by God’s grace, sometimes I do (hopefully more than not).

How do I serve my family with Christ-like love and tenderness? Most days, half the battle is figuring that out! It changes. I wish it didn’t, but it does. I guess that’s life.

A sure sign of a man's strength is how gently he loves his wife.Most often, serving my family means I Read More

Why the World Needs Your Marriage

July 15, 2015 |

I’ll just be honest, I’ve been having a rough couple of weeks; very rough. However, my hope is strong. I’m not 100% sure what this post will accomplish, but I’m compelled to share just in case you feel like me.

Disclaimer: it’s mostly not a warm-fuzzy post. Also, it’s long. Read More