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April 20, 2014

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Hi, we’re Ryan and Selena Frederick.

Ryan & Selena, authors and curators of Fierce Marriage

Fierce Marriage is our blog devoted to helping couples build better marriages. We believe that building a Christ-centered marriage requires a fierce tenacity that never gives up and never gives in; there is no Plan B. When we vowed “Till death do us part”, we meant it!

Here we hope you find lots of useful advice that can help your marriage! We encourage you to join our mailing list, find us on Facebook/Twitter/Instagram, and please share your thoughts by commenting on posts.  - Ryan & Selena

10 Horrible Tips for Marital Arguments

March 1, 2014 | 18

There are thousands of posts online about “how to communicate” in marriage and how to argue in a healthy way. But what if you want to be truly terrible at it? Where do you turn for advice? Well, friends, you’ve come to the right place!

Here are 10 horrible tips for marital communication. No matter the topic of your disagreement, if you follow these horrible … Read More

Your marriage is not a DIY project

February 28, 2014 | 7

Have you ever tried to do a DIY project?

Honestly, I feel like I am somewhat of a creative mind, but when it comes to DIY projects (hello Pinterest) I’m like a first-grader learning how to write in cursive.

Spoon rings

A few Christmas’ ago I tried to do spoon rings for my Young Life girls. Easy-peasy right? Get a few sterling silver spoons from … Read More

3 Myths About Quality Time in Marriage

February 20, 2014 | 7

Nothing replaces quality, focused time with your spouse. There are no substitutes and no shortcuts. We’re learning and relearning this concept in our marriage. Whenever Selena and I allow our time together to be eroded by life’s chaos and busyness, our marriage suffers. How?

  1. We’re impatient with each other
  2. Sex is infrequent and/or insincere
  3. Frustrations mount as grace runs dry
  4. We’re increasingly inconsiderate of … Read More

Feeling alone in your marriage?

February 13, 2014 | 1

During one of our Young Life Leader meetings, my area director shared with us from a popular devotional, Jesus Calling. The day was Feb. 3 and it talked about Jesus being with us and for us (Romans 8:31).

Of course, I started contemplating how these two beautiful and miraculous facts worked into marriage.

At our meeting we were studying it in terms of youth ministry and how often we … Read More

4 Ways to Prove to Your Spouse You Love Them (Part 2)

February 12, 2014 | 5

In my previous post, we covered the first two ways you can prove your love to your spouse: transparency/honesty, and loving them when they’re unloveable.* If you haven’t yet, I recommend quickly clicking back to give it a glance (it’s reasonably short), as it sets the stage for the series.

Naturally this post will continue with parts 3 and 4 of the series, so let’s … Read More

4 Ways to Prove to Your Spouse You Love Them (Part 1)

February 11, 2014 | 8

This Valentine’s Day couples young and old will strive to prove their love via candy, poems, songs, flowers, and helium balloons. It’s funny though, do these things actually do anything to convince our spouses of our love? Yes and no.

If your marriage is healthy, Valentine’s Day gestures will extend an already present sentiment during a festive time of year – which is great! If … Read More

The Feelings of Men

February 5, 2014 | 10

We often oversimplify and associate manly needs in a relationship with physical affection and leave it there. Women are the softer side of the marriage, right? Guys are all grit and sports and beards and cars and red meat and stuff – real Ron Swansons if you know what I mean.

We must not forget that men can be very emotional; even intensely emotional. I’d … Read More

The Importance of Margin in Your Marriage

January 29, 2014 | 2

My mornings are like pure clockwork: I wake up at exactly 6AM, grab some coffee, have 45 minutes of devotions, shower for 10 minutes, take the dogs for a 15 minute walk, play with Adelaide for 30 minutes, chat with Selena about her day for 10 minutes, leave for work at 7:50AM and start working at 8AM sharp. Every day is like that, without exception, and … Read More