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August 30, 2014

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Hi, we’re Ryan and Selena Frederick.

Ryan & Selena, authors and curators of Fierce Marriage

Fierce Marriage is our blog devoted to helping couples build better marriages. We believe that building a Christ-centered marriage requires a fierce tenacity that never gives up and never gives in; there is no Plan B. When we vowed “Till death do us part”, we meant it!

Here we hope you find lots of useful advice that can help your marriage! We encourage you to join our mailing list, find us on Facebook/Twitter/Instagram, and please share your thoughts by commenting on posts.  - Ryan & Selena

How Our Friendships Affect Our Marriage

July 23, 2014 | 17

All too often I’m guilty of allowing ungodly friendships to have a “say” in my marriage.

I’m not saying we’re suppose to shun all of our married unbeliever friends and never hangout with them. What I am saying is that having filters on who we let have a voice in our marriage is a way of fighting fiercely for it.

It means we are identifying different friendships and passionately protecting our … Read More

The “Phone Drop Test” Every Couple Should Consider

July 10, 2014 | 22

You can tell a person’s character by how they use their smartphone. It’s a veritable thermometer for the health of your integrity.

What would happen if you immediately dropped your phone (unlocked) and your spouse picked it up? What thoughts go through your mind? What would your husband/wife discover?

I’m not referring to “how well your iPhone handles a 4 foot drop”. Everyone knows it’s … Read More

4 Surprising Facets of Transparency in Marriage

June 24, 2014 | 6

When we talk about transparency, the response is nearly unanimous: it’s a vital part of marriage and relationships. You really can’t build a meaningful bond with your spouse if you’re hiding part of yourself. But most often, hiding is our first instinct. Read More

From Palms to Pine Trees: Life Lessons and Transitions

June 19, 2014 | 7

As you most of you probably know, Ryan, Dela and I are in the middle of a major life transition.

And to be honest, the transition is much harder than I anticipated. Suddenly all the little things that frustrated me Read More

Announcement: Our Curiously Ambiguous Next Step

June 17, 2014 | 58

We’ve had a quiet spell on the blog, this post explains why. In short, things are changing for us and just to clear the air, we’re not pregnant (that we know of!).

Change is tough. Well, usually it’s tough. Change means that whatever you’re used to, comfortable with, and reasonably good at must now be different. The thing about change is that it must happen … Read More

Slivers, Secrets, and Shame: Why Transparency in Marriage is an Absolute Must

May 28, 2014 | 11

Selena and I have had our secrets. We’ve hidden things from each other in our marriage, both purposefully and passively. We’ve masked poor financial choices, hidden sexual addiction, and “failed to mention” costly mistakes. It wasn’t until relatively recently that we discovered the power of transparency in our marriage. Read More

How to Speak Your Spouse’s Love Language (and What to Avoid)

May 21, 2014 | 19

Love… It’s a word everyone uses and a concept sought by all. In marriage we make a covenant commitment to love each other whole-heartedly through our actions. We profess it, we show it, we receive it, and we feel it – at least that’s the hope. Love is not something you can check off a list, it’s a way of living, thinking, and doing.

Love is a particularly tricky … Read More

Out in the Cold: Why Your Marriage is Worth Fighting For

May 8, 2014 | 26

What if we always did exactly what we wanted? God wants us to be happy right, so why not do what brings us happiness? You’re probably already objecting. Anyone over the age of 6 knows you can’t have everything you want whenever it’s available to you. If you’ve ever vomited from an Otter Pop overdose (not that I’ve ever done that…) you’ll understand.

Humans have a strange … Read More