After reading Matthew 7, I was challenged with the idea of judgement and hurt. How judgement hurts our spouse, ourselves and our marriage. How many times have I passed judgement on Ryan? I’m not talking eternal judgement (that’s God’s realm), I’m talking the cranky me who didn’t get enough sleep and suddenly feels the right to pridefully judge (i.e. nit pick) every small thing he does…
10 Horrible Tips for Marital Arguments
There are thousands of posts online about “how to communicate” in marriage and how to argue in a healthy way. But what if you want to be truly terrible at it? Where do you turn for advice? Well, friends, you’ve come to the right place! Here are 10 horrible tips for marital communication. No matter the topic of your disagreement, if you follow these horrible…
Your marriage is not a DIY project
Have you ever tried to do a DIY project? Honestly, I feel like I am somewhat of a creative mind, but when it comes to DIY projects (hello Pinterest) I’m like a first-grader learning how to write in cursive. Spoon rings A few Christmas’ ago I tried to do spoon rings for my Young Life girls. Easy-peasy right? Get a few sterling silver spoons from…
3 Myths About Quality Time in Marriage
Nothing replaces quality, focused time with your spouse. There are no substitutes and no shortcuts. We’re learning and relearning this concept in our marriage. Whenever Selena and I allow our time together to be eroded by life’s chaos and busyness, our marriage suffers. How? We’re impatient with each other Sex is infrequent and/or insincere Frustrations mount as grace runs dry We’re increasingly inconsiderate of one…
4 Ways to Prove to Your Spouse You Love Them (Part 2)
In my previous post, we covered the first two ways you can prove your love to your spouse: transparency/honesty, and loving them when they’re unloveable.* If you haven’t yet, I recommend quickly clicking back to give it a glance (it’s reasonably short), as it sets the stage for the series. Naturally this post will continue with parts 3 and 4 of the series, so let’s…
4 Ways to Prove to Your Spouse You Love Them (Part 1)
This Valentine’s Day couples young and old will strive to prove their love via candy, poems, songs, flowers, and helium balloons. It’s funny though, do these things actually do anything to convince our spouses of our love? Yes and no. If your marriage is healthy, Valentine’s Day gestures will extend an already present sentiment during a festive time of year – which is great! If…
5 Habits That Will Instantly Transform Your Marriage
The secret is out, there is no pill or potion that will make your marriage instantly better. Although, I suppose if there was such a remedy it would sell like organic mustache wax at a hipster convention. Being that a potion isn’t available, Selena and I have found that if we keep these few habits in place, our married life is ten times more enjoyable…
Book Review: Love Does (by Bob Goff)
If you’re looking for a Godly, encouraging and a light, easy read — pick up Love Does. If you haven’t heard of this book yet, I’m glad I can introduce you to it! Although it’s not a marriage book – Love Does is a great read and might be just what the doctor ordered
Why Your Marriage Needs Fighting, and Lots of It
If you’re looking for a new book to read, I’d encourage you to check out Love Does by Bob Goff. It’s not a marriage book, but every life lesson Bob shares could easily be translated into marriage. In chapter 28 (“Skin in the Game”) Goff discusses fighting…why fighting for the right things (Godly injustices), with the right tools (love), is important. What better topic to write…
Celebrating 1 Year of Fierce Marriage!
As much as we do try and keep up with the latest blogging times, having a baby definitely changes things…mainly your schedule. Needless to say, our New Year’s post is a bit later than we would have liked, but the reason is worthy, and we appreciate your grace. The beginning This time last year Ryan and I were packed like sardines in the streets of London…