Ryan and Selena answer questions from readers around the world! Uncut, unedited, and unfiltered… for better or worse (a little like marriage!) Fierce Marriage (the book) is available for pre-order at https://fiercemarriagebook.com. Go there to learn more!
Why “I love you but I’m not IN love with you” is a lie
One of the truest markers of genuine love is its staying power—its longevity, its ability to persevere, and its ability to withstand. This is the type of love Christ shows us, and its the type of love we’re called to express in marriage. However, our culture and our humanity would have us believe something else. Without a biblical understanding of love, we’re prone to follow…
Dealing with Anger in Marriage (the Healthy Way)
Listen in as Ryan and Selena discuss how to deal with anger in marriage (i.e. conflict, frustration, bitterness) in productive, biblical ways. Couple’s Challenge After listening, set aside some time to talk and write down anger triggers. Try to trace them back to their root causes and identify why they make you feel this way? Dive into scripture and discover what it says and how…
Redeeming Respect
Is respect earned, given, or some combination of the two? What should a wife do if she wants to respect her husband but he’s not acting respectably? The biblical idea of respect in marriage can be tricky against our cultural backdrop, but it’s worth hashing through because we see a beautiful picture of the gospel on the other side. In this episode, Ryan and Selena…
3 Profound Purposes of Sex and How They Make it Much…Much Better
Sex is so much more than physical and its purposes extend far beyond our immediate pleasure. How exactly has God designed sex for his eternal purposes? How can we enjoy intimacy more deeply knowing that we’re profoundly reflecting certain aspects of God’s grace and goodness in the gospel? In this episode, Ryan and Selena explore three purposes of sex as found in Genesis 1 and…
5 Ways to Fight for Your Integrity While Apart for Work (or Otherwise)
Many couples experience separation for days, weeks, or even months because of work-related travel. If you or your husband/wife travel for a corporate job or military deployment, you will face unique challenges when it comes to staying connected emotionally (and physically), as well as maintaining spouse-honoring (and God-honoring) integrity while apart. In today’s podcast, we cover five ways to fight for personal integrity while one…
How Radically Pursuing Your Spouse Changes Your Heart (and Theirs)
Every marriage begins with purpose, passion, and intentional pursuit, but few marriages stay that way. Maintaining passion and joy in marriage is largely dependent both spouses committing to a lifelong pursuit. And a lifelong pursuit is only sustainable (truly) through experiencing the radical love of God in Jesus. In this episode, we explore everything we learned about pursuing each other while completing the 31-Day Pursuit…
The 3 P’s That Can Poison Your Marriage
Marriage is a magnificent gift from God, but we’re imperfect people. We have a propensity for poison: our sinful desires tend to poison the pure things in our life. God uses marriage to sanctify us.
The Tools of Transparency
Why be transparent about something difficult when it’s so much easier to just hide it? Quick answer: freedom. Nothing compares to the freedom of total honesty in a marriage relationship. Being totally honest can be scary. What if your husband/wife doesn’t love you once they see who you really are? While the proposition of rejection is scary, as those rooted in Christ, we have hope…
Redeeming the Ideas of Headship and Submission
Some of the fiercest conversations we’ve ever had have started with questions about headship, submission, and roles. You probably agree that biblical manhood and womanhood are among the most common and culturally confusing topics within marriage today. Wives struggle with what it means to submit while husbands wrestle with what it means to express loving headship like Jesus. All of the pain, confusion, and frustration…