Quality Time: 3 Habits for Unplugged Dating

Quality time with your spouse is one of the best investments of time and energy you can make. In our super-connected society, we have to fiercely protect that time against leeching distractions. If left unguarded, true quality time with your spouse may be eroded and contaminated.

Messy Forgiveness

Awe, forgiveness…a word of the day for any marriage vocabulary list. Married couples will tell you about how easy it is to forgive each other when you’re dating/engaged. How could he or she ever do anything wrong? They are perfect. Fast forward a few years into marriage and

Video: Sincerely Freedom: Battling Sexual Addiction

Heads up, this topic is intense and the delivery is extremely passionate. It’s well known that sexual addiction plagues many marriages today. This spoken word piece is not for the light hearted. With hard-hitting style and vivid truth, Nick Vitellaro challenges men and women alike to count the cost of pornography addiction and turn to God for lasting freedom.

Word. Love Speaks.

Words are powerful, and if life and death are in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21); how much more awareness do we need in conversations with our spouse? I can’t begin to count how many times I’ve spoken to Ryan without really thinking about what I was saying or how I was saying it. (Yep, we’re going there.) I’ll let you in on a…

Until Death Do Us Part

I’m ashamed to admit it but I really enjoy weddings – it doesn’t feel very manly to say so. I enjoy them because they remind me of our wedding and the words Selena and I vowed to uphold (I’m a lousy dancer, so the receptions are awkward at best).

The Issue Is Never The Issue – Going To The Source

For the last week or so, Ryan and I haven’t exactly been on the same page about everything…not fun. Blame it on jet-lag tiredness or entering back into the SoCal culture, but we were irritatingly out of sync. What’s worse, we couldn’t figure it out, at first. We were civil and may have even appeared “fine” to the outside world, but every little thing he…

Husbands: Creating and Casting Vision

As a husband, Selena looks to me to be a leader. She desires decisive, meaningful direction in our marriage and in our lives. Don’t get me wrong, she is definitely involved and vocal as we work together to craft our vision. But as the husband, the buck stops with me – I’m responsible to lead lovingly

Managing Financial Stress in Your Marriage

Selena and I have seen more than our fair share of financial hardship. We got married during college (Top Ramen date nights!), made lots of dumb decisions, and quit our jobs to start a business. I’ve lost count of how many times our checking account has been below $50 while we were buried in debt, savings-less, and had to pay rent the next day.

What Happens When the Happiness Fades?

After (almost) 10 years of marriage, and 4 years of dating before that, I’ve learned that making decisions about your marriage/relationship based on happiness is never a good idea. Are we supposed to make our spouses happy? Of course, God wants us to be intentional with our spouses; to cherish, love and honor them. However, happiness is NOT the ultimate objective…it can’t be.