Hearing Her: Decrypting Your Wife’s Words

Gentlemen, this post is for you. Let’s just be honest, we aren’t wired like our wives, especially when it comes to communication. Sometimes it feels like she’s speaking a completely foreign language. I won’t try to list common scenarios, because I haven’t found any. We try to listen and respond the best way we know how; why does it sometimes have the complete opposite of…

Peaks and Valleys: Growth and Triumph

“Mountain top experiences”… we’ve all had them. That rush of adrenaline and satisfaction that accompanies our defining moments. In your marriage, peak moments may include your wedding day, the birth of a child, landing a new job, or purchasing your first home. All “peakers” will know that the peak is usually just the climax of an otherwise long and arduous process. It’s our ultimate place…

Miracles In Your Marriage

Yesterday at church we had the privilege of learning from a true scholar, compassionate minister, and friend to our senior pastor, Mr. Robby Booth. In his solid message about the Setting For A Transformational Miracle, one thing in particular got me thinking…

Quality Time: 3 Habits for Unplugged Dating

Quality time with your spouse is one of the best investments of time and energy you can make. In our super-connected society, we have to fiercely protect that time against leeching distractions. If left unguarded, true quality time with your spouse may be eroded and contaminated.

Messy Forgiveness

Awe, forgiveness…a word of the day for any marriage vocabulary list. Married couples will tell you about how easy it is to forgive each other when you’re dating/engaged. How could he or she ever do anything wrong? They are perfect. Fast forward a few years into marriage and

Video: Sincerely Freedom: Battling Sexual Addiction

Heads up, this topic is intense and the delivery is extremely passionate. It’s well known that sexual addiction plagues many marriages today. This spoken word piece is not for the light hearted. With hard-hitting style and vivid truth, Nick Vitellaro challenges men and women alike to count the cost of pornography addiction and turn to God for lasting freedom.

Word. Love Speaks.

Words are powerful, and if life and death are in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21); how much more awareness do we need in conversations with our spouse? I can’t begin to count how many times I’ve spoken to Ryan without really thinking about what I was saying or how I was saying it. (Yep, we’re going there.) I’ll let you in on a…

Until Death Do Us Part

I’m ashamed to admit it but I really enjoy weddings – it doesn’t feel very manly to say so. I enjoy them because they remind me of our wedding and the words Selena and I vowed to uphold (I’m a lousy dancer, so the receptions are awkward at best).

The Issue Is Never The Issue – Going To The Source

For the last week or so, Ryan and I haven’t exactly been on the same page about everything…not fun. Blame it on jet-lag tiredness or entering back into the SoCal culture, but we were irritatingly out of sync. What’s worse, we couldn’t figure it out, at first. We were civil and may have even appeared “fine” to the outside world, but every little thing he…

Husbands: Creating and Casting Vision

As a husband, Selena looks to me to be a leader. She desires decisive, meaningful direction in our marriage and in our lives. Don’t get me wrong, she is definitely involved and vocal as we work together to craft our vision. But as the husband, the buck stops with me – I’m responsible to lead lovingly